u/mamadag3

So with the hair stylist confirming 7 retirees, does anyone see vet cuts happening?
If so, who?
Not to be harsh but I think a couple of vet cuts would be good for the squad!

Context, my lo is 4 weeks old. I also have a 12yo and a 9yo who I am a lone parent to.
My partner is a nice person, I don’t want to make him out to be a total dickhead but I’m sad about the way he is acting right now.
So he plays with my oldest children a lot and will pick my 9yo up from school when he finishes work early and he will hold our baby when asked and during the night if baby is sick or something and I ask him to grab something or hold her he will so it’s not like he completely ignores everyone.
I am EBF so he can’t feed baby but he won’t do nappy changes, hasn’t done any, won’t get involved with bath time, hasn’t done or assisted with one, all he really does is hold baby.
He is also out a lot.
Schedule for this week is Monday evening- outdoor sports, Tuesday evening- indoor sports, Wednesday evening- outdoor sports, Friday evening- outdoor then indoor sports, Saturday morning- outdoor sports, Sunday morning- outdoor sports.
All of the sports are hobbies and this is on top of working full time.
So this morning I went downstairs at 7:30am. I had been up with the baby several times in the night, multiple feeds, nappy changes, an outfit change and 2 sleeping bag changes due to sick.
Several feeds this morning as well as nappy changes, settled lo in the pushchair whilst I did his pack up and the kids for school/work tomorrow, cleaned the kitchen, cleaned the airfryer, did all the washing up. Woke him up at 10am to ask him to hold baby whilst I get dressed and brush my teeth. Also asked him to bring down wash pile of baby’s sleeping bags/clothes from the night because I can’t carry that down and baby and I wanted to get it on.
He finally appears with washing at 11am then starts moaning that the bin is very full and getting stressed with me about it. The bin is his one job so I said sorry but I’m not sorting the bin and I’m doing a lot on my own so I can’t do everything. He then took out the bins very stressy. I said I am doing so much on my own and don’t like him being stressy and said he is out a lot. He then said I don’t have the right to be annoyed about his going out schedule because he is only out 3 hours a time for outdoor sports, the two indoor ones he is out from 6pm-midnight/1:30am because he drinks at the pub afterwards.
I started crying and then he started going on about his mates mental health. Completely ignoring mine.
Just don’t know what to do. I don’t bother nagging at him because he won’t change anything anyway, just wish he cared when I am literally crying I suppose and wish we could occasionally come ahead of his social life