u/mamalo13

I (F,49) had my GB out two years ago and haven't had too many issues, until a few months ago.

I've now how three "episodes" where I very suddenly got super hot and sweaty, sudden sharp pain under my ribs, pain that radiates up to my shoulders and particularly my left arm. It's pretty intense pain, I can't talk or hardly breathe. It comes on very quickly and passes within five minutes. Today it happened right after I ate a piece of pizza. The other two times it happened, it happened within an hour of eating.

I do have a doctors appointment coming up to discuss this, but I was wondering about others experience with these issues after surgery.

I had a full work up of my heart health about 4 months ago and I'm told l that all looks good. But to be honest, all three of these instances had me scared for a moment that I was having a heart attack. I had a GB attack right before my surgery that felt very similar.

I just want to be prepared when I go into the doctor. Looking for anyone with experience with attacks post-surgery. Thank you!

In my app, it shows me the bags that "were popular today" and I NEVER see those on my list to chose from! Especially those WF deals.

Should I be waking up at midnight to check? Or is there some special time the good things drop on the app?

I'd love to hear from other folks who might have experience in this space of their healing journey....

Do you have any tips or coping skills for not internalizing feedback from others that is clearly not really about you? Especially if you have that "overdeveloped sense of justice" that sometimes comes with PTSD?

I've been struggling at work lately. I am the only female on my leadership team, and the three men who are also part of leadership and really emotionally unstable and immature. Nice guys at heart but boy or boy do they need therapy.

They can lash out and will often point out my flaws as a way of deflecting from their own mistakes.

When I step away and go home and vent a little bit, I can see clearly that it's not about me, it's about their own insecurity. It's not even that big of a deal, it's totally normal human behavior.

But in the moment, when it happens I'm having a hard time keep my "thinking brain" online and I go into a little bit of "fight" and I want to defend myself. I ruminate a bit on the things I WANT to say or the things I WISH they'd see or understand.

To be clear, I'm never yelling at anyone or confronting them. I generally don't say much, but it's my brain that is going crazy and repeating the interactions, and thinking of all the things I WISH I'd said.

I don't want to let it get to me this much. I can rationally step away and I know it's just about their issues.

Anyone with any good coping skills to try for keeping my brain calm in those situations and staying grounded? Good tips for diverting your brain from rumination on those "I should have......" conversations?

Timesheet submission is a problem in my company.

Currently it's just a "turn it in by the end of the pay period" and that gets done by 80% of people.

I'm tempted to move to a "all hourly staff have to turn in time DAILY and salary staff have to turn in time weekly" model. But I'd love some feedback on pitfalls to this or options I might not be thinking of. Whats working best for everyone else stuck in the eternal batter of "PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR HOURS SO I CAN PAY YOU OMG".

We're a small consulting firm, most of our staff work in the field but have the Workforce app to clock time. The only complaint I get is "I didn't have time to do it".

Edit to remove a venting part that was distracting.........