u/mariax10

Hi fellow Aussies!

I’ve posted this on other subs but I feel like most responses were from American redditors, I’m genuinely interested if there is a culture difference in opinion as my soon to be MIL and the rest of my partner’s family (all Aussies) don’t think it’s rude at all, in contrast to the majority opinion on Reddit.

My partner and I have decided on having a wedding in Indonesia, but because we are an interfaith couple and I wanted to marry in a Catholic Church it’s gonna be too much of a headache to do in Indonesia due to the paperwork. We settled on a small legal church ceremony here in Australia with just our immediate family initially, and invited around 70 people to join us in Indonesia for a symbolic ceremony and a larger, more extravagant reception.

Obviously being a destination wedding, we anticipated that we would get a lot of RSVP no’s. The people who aren’t able to make it to Indonesia for various reasons still want to celebrate with us in some way/witness the actual wedding. My partner and I don’t really want to host two receptions, as the overseas one is our “main celebration.”

Is it rude to allow people to attend the church wedding to witness our union, but not have a local reception after? Our reception is technically overseas, we were just going to have a small dinner with our immediate family after the legal church ceremony. We would just put something like “ we look forward to celebrating with you Indonesia” in the “reception details“ part of the invitation for those interested in coming to the ceremony only.

edit: for clarification, the church ceremony will have a small dinner after, initially only for the immediate family but now people have asked if they can attend the church ceremony as well. My partner and I are trying to decide if we accommodate for the guests who want to come to the church only.

My partner and I have decided on having a wedding in Indonesia, but because we are an interfaith couple and I wanted to marry in a Catholic Church it’s gonna be too much of a headache to do in Indonesia due to the paperwork. We settled on a small legal church ceremony here in Australia with just our immediate family initially, and invited around 70 people to join us in Indonesia for a symbolic ceremony and a larger, more extravagant reception.

Obviously being a destination wedding, we anticipated that we would get a lot of RSVP no’s. The people who aren’t able to make it to Indonesia for various reasons still want to celebrate with us in some way/witness the actual wedding. My partner and I don’t really want to host two receptions, as the overseas one is our “main celebration.”

Is it rude to allow people to attend the church wedding to witness our union, but not have a local reception after? Our reception is technically overseas, we were just going to have a small dinner with our immediate family after the legal church ceremony. We would just put something like “ we look forward to celebrating with you Indonesia” in the “reception details“ part of the invitation for those interested in coming to the ceremony.

My partner and I have decided on having a wedding in Indonesia, but because we are an interfaith couple and I wanted to marry in a Catholic Church it’s gonna be too much of a headache to do in Indonesia due to the paperwork. We settled on a small legal church ceremony here in Australia with just our immediate family initially, and invited around 70 people to join us in Indonesia for a symbolic ceremony and a larger, more extravagant reception.

Obviously being a destination wedding, we anticipated that we would get a lot of RSVP no’s. The people who aren’t able to make it to Indonesia for various reasons still want to celebrate with us in some way/witness the actual wedding. My partner and I don’t really want to host two receptions, as the overseas one is our “main celebration.”

Is it rude to allow people to attend the church wedding to witness our union, but not have a local reception after? Our reception is technically overseas, we were just going to have a small dinner with our immediate family after the legal church ceremony. We would just put something like “ we look forward to celebrating with you Indonesia” in the “reception details“ part of the invitation for those interested in coming to the ceremony.

Hi Reddit!

My partner and I have decided on having a wedding in Indonesia, but because we are an interfaith couple and I wanted to marry in a Catholic Church it’s gonna be too much of a headache to do in Indonesia due to the paperwork. We settled on a small legal church ceremony here in Australia with just our immediate family initially, and invited around 70 people to join us in Indonesia for a symbolic ceremony and a larger, more extravagant reception.

Obviously being a destination wedding, we anticipated that we would get a lot of RSVP no’s. The people who aren’t able to make it to Indonesia for various reasons still want to celebrate with us in some way/witness the actual wedding. My partner and I don’t really want to host two receptions, as the overseas one is our “main celebration.”

Is it rude to allow people to attend the church wedding to witness our union, but not have a local reception after? Our reception is technically overseas, we were just going to have a small dinner with our immediate family after the legal church ceremony. We would just put something like “ we look forward to celebrating with you Indonesia” in the “reception details“ part of the invitation for those interested in coming to the ceremony.

Thank you!