Never date a person who is taken (Monkey branching)
It ALWAYS ends up with her/him breaking up with you, in the same way.
I M23 was in a relationship 1.5 years ago (yea ik ik a bit late)
I met her in school and she was my first everything.
So it started pretty common chitchat in school teasing etc. She invited me to her birthday party and there she was sitting on the lap of her boyfriend. The party went pretty normal nothing happened between us.
I went home and a few days later she told me " yea I'm in a relationship but it's a secret one, and i want to break up with him but I'm not sure how"
I thought " oh man she is so interested in me she would break up with him to become my girlfriend.
A few weeks later we went as a huge friend group shopping and after the mall we chilled a bit in the city and she grabbed her phone called her bf and said " I don't see a future with us" hanged up and smiled at me.
We were together for 1.5 years. The last 0.5 were really distant and cold. I knew she was under alot of stress and i were too. I thought everything will change when this phase is over. We never really had beef with each other.
All Fights ended in no contact for a few hours where she and I were in different rooms in the house. After that we were like nothing happened and we went on with life.
I found out a month before the break up she was chatting on discord with someone (I didn't mind that, she has many male friends and she played a lot on her PC) she sended him a pic from me that was only for her and my eyes. I told her that was a total no go and i was really angry at her. After that she became more distant and left me more and more on read.
Then on a random tuesday. After school she kissed me and stepped into her bus ( The kiss felt wrong and cold) 10 minutes later she texted me we needed to talk. I knew she was gonna break up, I begged her to think about it. How I could change for her and and and.
Thursday. She broke up with me after school. I started crying and she said " I'm sorry I didn't mean to make you cry" she hugged me i gave her the backpack with her stuff from my place and i went in the bathroom to hide myself.
I started drinking a lot, hit the gym multiple times a day and starved myself. 2 weeks later i needed to go back to school for the 5 final exams.
She wouldn't even look in my direction, seated her self on the other side of the room and talked all the time with someone who i knew had a crush on her.
School was over and I applied for university.
The Huge friend group didn't survived our break up. They were all as confused as me. They didn't know why she breaked up and if she is now together the one who had a crush on her.
I went 0 contact with everyone.
I found out 2 weeks ago (from today) she is now together with that guy from discord.
Thx for listening i had to vent a bit.
My advice is never ever date someone who is taken.
I'm still not 100 % sure what caused her to break up. I know now I wasn't a good boyfriend but I gave her the best I could at the moment.
I'm now over her but I'm still confused why that happened. I think that's the reason why I'm now so scared of women or relationships in general. ( I don't know how I f*cked up so I don't know how to prevent that from happening again)