u/mazda7281

I’m a guy, and lately I’ve been feeling kind of "used" in early stage of relationship

My current relationship is one-sided from the beginning, I ask out, initiate, pay for dates, show effort.

I had a fight yesterday with the gf, because I said that I contribute 90% to our relationship and she contributes only 10% or less. And I'm not talking only about money. I initiate conversations, I pick her up, I basically do everything and I can't recall a one thing that she did for me. She feels that she also contributes and shows effort, but I really don't see it.

My ex at least used to cook for me and clean my apartment and paid for dates sometimes. But my gf never offered anything like that, never offered to pay for a dinner or even ice cream or anything. Never took me out anywhere.

I'm spending so much time and money on her and she has a free ride and fun. Sometimes I'm asking myself what I'm even doing, sacrificing my hobbies, friends, time with my family just to see my gf and do everything for her, pay for it and get nothing in return. It really doesn't make sense to me.

Sorry for bad english

I don’t want to make this post sound like a rant, but honestly it is something I think about a lot recently.

I am in my 30s and most of my Catholic friends (whom I met at Youth Adult Groups when I was a student) are still single, never married and without children. I would almost 70% of them. These are good people, practicing Catholics, they go to Mass, they try to live decent lives, many of them would like to have a family. But somehow it just doesn’t happen. Some of them (especially guys) haven't been on a date even once.

Those people didn't reject marriage. Most of them wanted it. They still want it. But years pass, dating is hard, Catholic dating is even harder, and after some time people become tired, disappointed, or just kind of accept their situation.

It feels strange because in Church we talk a lot about family, marriage, children, openness to life etc. And of course this is all good and true. But when I look around, many faithful Catholics are just alone. Not because they hate family life, but because they never found someone.

I wonder if other people see the same thing in their communities? Is this mostly a Western problem? Or maybe this is just my social circle?

I also noticed that many people want to improve themselves first before they start dating. They focus on their career first, or getting jacked / “looksmaxing”, or overcoming all their problems before they feel ready.

I have Asia region esim. Used it for almost 2 weeks now, in Japan and in South Korea - without any issues.

Today I came back again to Japan (from Korea) and the connection is very unstable. It gets disconnected about every 15-20s.

I tried restarting my phone and everything, but nothing helps.