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Bought one recently, clocked around 1.5 k kms. Wanted guidance on some issues I'm facing. Whether these are common or else.

1. The wiper blades are skipping through the front mirror. It's not smooth and is making noise.

2. When turning I can hear crunching noise coming from the door panels.

3. shifting from 1 st to second is jerky. Heard it's common but pls do tell.

4. The ac suddenly stopped blowing air through the vents. I could hear the air blowing but it was not coming through any vents ( not even the front glass vents) after sometime I toggled the ac vent mode again and again and after several toggling, it started working. What caused this?

Thanks in advance.

Hello,

For context, me and my gf were in a relationship for about 5 years. 3 +2 yrs of long distance.

I'll be honest. From the start itself she had trauma, I was there with her and I told her about my feelings and we got into a relationship. She had a relationship prior to this and when we got into the relationship she had told me that they had broken up a few months prior. It was only later on that I came to know she did not properly break up with the guy and he was calling her and putting out suicidal threats and everything. I then had to intervene and sort it out with him.

When we used to fight she used to harm herself and I did not leave when all this happened because we aligned a lot on other things. I thought it would get better. The time when we were together was some of the best time I had with a person.

Then I went for my post graduation, I had my exams and during a fight I told her that I have to focus on my end term and will call her afterwards. It did end on a bad term though( we were at 3 yrs now). When I called her back I came to know she went back with her ex alone in a car to a lonely place, but nothing happened. We had a lot of to and from talks and I ended up getting back with her.

But from this point onwards I made it clear to her that trust was broken and she has to talk to me about what happened and everything with honesty. But what I got was lies and only when I pushed for it I got to know that at the end her ex said to her that he can't trust her anymore. At that point I realised she only came back because he refused. Again I tried to get out , but whenever this incident came up she started hurting herself and at one point I also couldn't handle it. I used to curse when asking for a basic explanation ended up blaming me for making her harm herself.

And then one day she just told me she lost her feelings and then went cold. I mean completely cold. Right on the day of my interviews.i tried to reach out but she did not even want to meet me or talk to me. I handled myself then after 2 months I got to know she got in another relationship and is marrying that person with families and all included. She also started saying bad things about me within our friend circle.

I was okay at first but slowly this kept creeping on me. I felt discarded, betrayed and all. This was the one person i decided to trust outside of my family.

I know that I have lost control at times, had my mistakes might have pushed her emotionally and all. But I feel like I should have gotten a better explanation or at least closure.

It's been around 8 months and I tried dating someone else but I am not able to properly move on. I keep finding myself overthinking myself and blaming myself.

I know that I should have left earlier and everything but there is a lot more to the story than this. I genuinely loved her and wanted a life with the person.

You can blame me, but I would be really grateful if you guys, the people who have gone through a breakup can help me get this out of my head. Any advice ?