u/melancholic_days

My love

You are the most beautiful thing in my life. You are like the blossom of the spring. You are like the golden glow of the evening sky. Times will change, years will pass but I hope to see your smile each day and at every turn of life. For your smile sows the seeds of hope, of dreams and of passion in me. Together, holding our hands, we will get through the tests of time. And one day when we are eighty, we will sit together, hugging tight watching the beautiful sky and the trees and our grandchildren playing.

Love you forever.

I'm not the eldest child, but I have seen and observed others in my family or friend circle. Jetho or jethi bhayo ki they are burdened with expectations and responsibilities to manage their siblings which is so so unfair. I remember this phrase called 'paako bhayo chora/chori' when these kids are barely a teen. I mean, they are just kids, why can't they enjoy freely without taking any mental load? Small tasks ma help garnu ra wholly responsibilities linu ma dherai farak cha.

Particularly with eldest daughters, they are expected to do soo much at an early age. My cousin was barely a teen when her sister was born. They live abroad and apparently she had to take care of the sister and become an adult so early. Family members would call her 'paako' but I doubt if she really enjoyed all the responsibilities. Now she has moved out as an adult.

It's one thing to be smart and show early signs of intelligence, but it's not right to make them take the responsibility of 'second mom' when they themselves aren't a real adult. This pattern is common in most communities in Nepal.

I hope my generation and the generation to come will consider an elder child as a child, not some adult.

I'm not the eldest child, but I have seen and observed others in my family or friend circle. Jetho or jethi bhayo ki they are burdened with expectations and responsibilities to manage their siblings which is so so unfair. I remember this phrase called 'paako bhayo chora/chori' when these kids are barely a teen. I mean, they are just kids, why can't they enjoy freely without taking any mental load? Small tasks ma help garnu ra wholly responsibilities linu ma dherai farak cha.

Particularly with eldest daughters, they are expected to do soo much at an early age. My cousin was barely a teen when her sister was born. They live abroad and apparently she had to take care of the sister and become an adult so early. Family members would call her 'paako' but I doubt if she really enjoyed all the responsibilities. Now she has moved out as an adult.

It's one thing to be smart and show early signs of intelligence, but it's not right to make them take the responsibility of 'second mom' when they themselves aren't a real adult. This pattern is common in most communities in Nepal.

I hope my generation and the generation to come will consider an elder child as a child, not some adult.

I've been seeing a lot of videos of a new Nepali makeup brand called 'Loveface Beauty'. Apparently it's founded by Priyanka and two other women. Ekjana ta 'surbs' (another content creator) bhayo, arko ta chinina. Having Priyanka as a face of the brand has definitely helped to create hype. Ma ta suru ma Priyanka model hola socheko, co-founder nai raicha.

Lets discuss what expectations we have in terms of this celebrity brand. Fully price reveal garechainan, so this is a good opportunity to share our guesses. I think the brand might be targeted to makeup artists in the beginning. We might see sponsored videos a lot. Pakkai pani website huncha, making it easier to order.

Do you think this brand will be luxury or drugstore? Who will be their competitor? Which product do you want to try?

Mero yo samasya dherai time samma hunthyo. I thought it's because I tie my hair on a tight bun. But no, even kapal yesai chode ni dukhne. Kapal move garnai nahune, touch garda taalu dukhne hunthyo. After hair wash it would be alright.

Apparently it's the dirt and sebum causing scalp inflammation. There are some scientific papers to prove this. I suffer from dandruff and not even regular shampoo like head & shoulders worked. Only after using medicated shampoo like Nizoral and washing hair frequently, my scalp stopped hurting. Tyo dirt ra sebum scalp ma basnu agadi nai ramro sanga dhuna jaruri raicha. I wash hair in day 3 and scalp feels better.

So even after changing hairstyles if your scalp hurt, you need to wash hair more often.

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Hellooo beautiful people,

Let me invite you all to join a newly created subreddit r/NepalBeautyTalks which is an all-in-one community for beauty topics. You can post about makeup, skincare, haircare, fashion, accessories, bags etc. It's a relaxed and not-so-serious sub.

I have created rules that will help to keep it a safe and respectful space. My inspiration is from a similar Indian subreddit. Please join and post your favorite makeup, skincare, accessories etc.

r/NepalBeautyTalks

Hellooo beautiful people,

Let me invite you all to join a newly created subreddit r/NepalBeautyTalks which is an all-in-one community for beauty topics. You can post about makeup, skincare, haircare, fashion, accessories, bags etc. It's a relaxed and not-so-serious sub.

I have created rules that will help to keep it a safe and respectful space. My inspiration is from a similar Indian subreddit. Please join and post your favorite makeup, skincare, accessories etc.

r/NepalBeautyTalks

Hellooo beautiful people,

let me invite you all to join a newly created subreddit r/NepalBeautyTalks which is an all-in-one community for beauty topics. You can post about makeup, skincare, haircare, fashion, accessories, bags, etc. This is a relaxed and not-so-serious sub. 

I have created rules to keep it a safe and respectful space. My inspiration is from a similar Indian subreddit. Please join and post your favorite makeup, skincare, accessories etc. 

Hoping to see the community grow.

r/NepalBeautyTalks

Been noticing a lot of young girls flexing their early marriage on social media, especially on TikTok. They even go on to encourage other young girls to marry soon and enjoy 'husband's income'. Most young girls take the responsibility of a mother within a year of marriage. Then that baby becomes her new source of income on social media. Why are we giving engagement to such accounts in 2026?

Social media is performative af. All the happiness that you see in their videos is all acting. You think their camera is always on record? No, they take retakes just to appear like an 'ideal couple'. Before you think that marrying early gives you benefits over marrying later, you are delulu and successfully manipulated by society. Yes, society talks about biological clock, but don't fall into the trap of 'having kids first, then career and success'. It rarely works because having kid/s comes with huge responsibilities. Why not establish a good career, become financially independent, marry, then decide if you really want kids? Your decision making capacity is different when you are 20 versus 30.

Even if girls are getting married early by 'own choice', I see absolutely no point to flex on social media. It sickens me how many of these young women might be experiencing abuse in their household because they are fully reliant on their husbands. Marrying before 25 also means they are super early in their career, lets assume junior roles. We often hear cases of women leaving their jobs under the pressure of in-laws.

I myself have heard women regretting that they married in their early 20s instead of pursuing career. No matter how supportive the in-laws are, societal conditoning makes it harder for women to balance both career and family. There will always be the guilt for not 'giving 100% time in household activities'.

Next time you come across such content, stop commenting or liking. Even negative PR is a PR, and content creators thrive on any form of engagement. Commenting doesn’t work either because the owner can easily delete.

I have been married for a few years, have stayed with in-laws, and now live separately with my husband. This is more about the expectations and stereotypes that are present in nepali marriage settings and how to break them. It is not for those who ain't marrying ever. More for anyone wanting to marry anytime in the future.

1. Your in-laws should never treat you like a daughter and you should never treat them like own parents. There might be exceptions, but that's rare. It's a different thing to expect basic respect and kindness, but you will never feel 'at home' if you live with in-laws. Set boundaries early, especially with people pleasers.

2. Living separately from in-laws strengthens the relationship more than dividing. Not here to judge the couples who live with in-laws happily. But my personal experience is that when you live separately from in-laws, you will have your personal space. As adults, you both will figure out partnership in a healthy way. It is also about breaking the stereotypes and expectations around DIL. If both of you are earning, it's super manageable.

3. Your husband should be your biggest supporter. I have noticed parents marrying off their daughters because the in-laws seem like good people. In the end, your husband's emotional maturity helps you become comfortable with in-laws. He will help to set boundaries and expectations early. Our society still treats buhari as inferior and jwai as superior. It's important you both are in the same team.

4. Nepali society LOVES gossiping and treating women as inferior beings. As long as you are financially independent and have a supportive husband, you should not bother with comments about babies, weight, job etc. Best thing to do is to stay quiet. I know that sounds submissive. However, sometimes silence gives you peace and helps avoid unnecessary drama.

5. Visit/call your own parents more often and don't make yourself a stranger in the same house your grew up. Traditionally, daughters are considered an 'outsider' after they get married. It's important to break this concept and never feel like a stranger with your parents. Your parents may create the distance, but you should be rigid and put efforts into building the relationship stronger.

6. No matter love marriage or arrange marriage, it's important that both of your values align well. Discuss early what kind of wedding you both want, if you both want kid/s in the future, how will you divide the expenses, etc. Compromise is equally important, but only works if there is no competition.

If you are married or have interesting observations around you, I'd love to hear your thoughts.

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