u/mellisa44

Location: Indiana

My ex husband lost his job and took me to court for change in child support. He asked for it to be lowered, for me to pay his lawyer fees and to have arrears waived.

Judgement just came back - his support was lowered by over 90%, I have to carry the insurance, I don’t have to pay his lawyer and it said “neither party discussed arrears”

He owes multiple thousands of dollars in back child support as he only paid once since losing his job in October.

So does he still owe them or no?

(Yes I represented myself bc I make less than $20,000 yearly and couldn’t afford a lawyer.)

Not much more to add to the title. Looking for gravel for my driveway. Got some delivered last year, but not nearly enough. Wasn’t happy with the driver, so would like to choose a different company this time. Who is your favorite?

For background I found out my son would be born with kidney failure at my 20 week ultrasound. So he has dealt with this his entire life. We were told he would be born with zero kidney function and need a transplant asap. That was not the case. He has been on meds his whole life, but retained enough kidney function to stay off dialysis until right after his 13th birthday. So October 2024 we started doing nightly PD.

He has not been approved for a transplant because he is not compliant enough with cathing. He needs to be cathing every 2-3 hours and foley overnight. Meaning going to the nurse multiple times during the school day. The nurse emails me every Friday to let me know how he is doing. Never has he gone the amount he is suppose to. And last week she called to say he is not actually cathing, just playing on his phone for 45 minutes. He also is not compliant with taking his phosphorus binders so his level is currently 7.3 when they want it to be 5.5.

My boyfriend keeps telling me I am not the one failing, I am trying my hardest and it has to be my son’s choice to do the right thing.

All construct comments and suggestions about how to improve this situation welcome. Thanks!

*edited to clear up - I perform his PD so that is 100% under control and going well. It is cathing through his “belly button” that is not going great. Also he was 13 when we started, but 15 now. And he sees hemodialysis each month when he goes to Riley for PD clinic. There are tiny babies and teenagers there getting their treatment. And…guess sorry I didn’t consider killing my son before he was born. My bad 😡 asshole