[23M] & [21F]— I don't feel prioritized even after multiple conversations. Are we incompatible?

My boyfriend[23M] and I[21F] have been together for around a year. We've had the same issue come up multiple times, and I don't know if this relationship is fixable anymore or if we're just incompatible.

The biggest problem is that I don't feel prioritized. It's not that he never texts me ,he does. He sends good morning texts, asks what I'm doing, tells me about his day, says he loves me, and checks in. But most of our conversations feel very surface level. A lot of them are about what he ate, his games , shows he's watching, or random updates. I rarely feel like we have quality, emotionally connected conversations, and I don't feel like he intentionally makes time for me.

I've explained this to him before, and recently I had another serious conversation with him about it. He said he understood, but I honestly haven't noticed much change in his actions, rather he is now even more busy with his own quality time.That's what hurts the most. I don't want him to just understand ,I want things to actually be different.

Furthermore, he's free these days and still he got no time to text during the day and only comes to me when it's time to sleep. When he wants to do something else he'll stay awake till 3am and when its time to have a conversation he'll feel sleepy as soon as the clock strikes 12.I told him about this a few days back but there is no change, now i feel as if i explained shit to a wall

At the same time, I know I'm not perfect either. When I start feeling disconnected, I don't always communicate it directly. Instead, I become sarcastic, give short replies, or say "nothing" when he asks what's wrong. I know that isn't healthy, but it usually happens because I'm already frustrated from feeling emotionally neglected for a while.

Lately I've started wondering whether we're simply too different. I need quality time, emotional depth, and to feel intentionally prioritized. He seems to express love through frequent check-ins, sharing updates about his day, and casual conversation. Sometimes it feels like no matter how much either of us tries, we still end up missing each other emotionally.

I also feel guilty because sometimes I think I make the relationship too much about my needs and complaints. I wonder if I'm expecting him to become someone he naturally isn't.

TL;DR: My boyfriend and I love each other, but I've repeatedly told him I don't feel prioritized. He says he understands, but his behavior hasn't really changed. I end up getting angry over small things because the bigger issue never feels resolved. I recently asked for a break because I'm starting to wonder if we're simply incompatible rather than bad partners. I'm looking for advice from people who've experienced something similar.

Because of all this, I told him we're taking a break.

For people who have been through something similar:

\- Were you genuinely incompatible, or was this something that improved over time?

\- Can someone who naturally communicates differently realistically change enough for a relationship like this to work?

\- Am I expecting too much, or have I simply reached the point where my emotional needs aren't being met?

\- If you've taken a break in a relationship, how did you know whether getting back together was the right decision?

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u/messed_potato1 — 1 day ago
▲ 1 r/Design

I was planning to do btech and later go for design through ceed?

Help me out with your thoughts and feedbacks

Is this a good idea

Just don't get too harsh

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u/messed_potato1 — 2 days ago

Is HP thinkbook worth it for btech cse

Suggest me which one will be good enough for btech cse if not this

I don't want it for gaming

Under 70k

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u/messed_potato1 — 13 days ago

How will i know that i can proceed ahead after my basics?

Even if i start drawing with cubes and spheres when and how will i know that now i have masted this part and can proceed with drawing with one perspective or anything else.

How will i know that i can go forward😭

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u/messed_potato1 — 21 days ago

How will i know that I'm done with my basics and can proceed if I'm learning myself?

Even if i start drawing with cubes and spheres when and how will i know that now i have masted this part and can proceed with drawing with one perspective or anything else.

How will i know that i can go forward😭

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u/messed_potato1 — 21 days ago

How to start with part B. Help me start. What should i start and from what ?

What should i do first

Tell me the flow how should i start learning

I do mid drawing.

I did go to drawing classes from 4th standard to around 7th

How should i start again

Please guide

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u/messed_potato1 — 23 days ago

How much score should i get in iit guwahati(i.e. near my house) and should be my rank in general and ews? Any idea?

What did be my score in part a and part b

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u/messed_potato1 — 23 days ago
▲ 1 r/btech

iit patna x masai

I just saw a reel about getting a certificate from i hub iit patna? Online?

For ai and ml?

Is it worth it?

I have an 30mins session with them today

It is scam or its really worth it?

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u/messed_potato1 — 28 days ago