u/mibibi

Hi everyone, I'm not sure if this is the best place for a post like this but I don't know where else to go. I'm 28, based in the UK and I've been supporting my parents since I was a teenager. They're able-bodied and pretty independent, so there's no need for me to assist them in the day-to-day.

However, they struggle with English and rapidly evolving technology. So whenever there's an administrative task that concerns the home (mortgage, gas and electric) or their personal assets (cars, bank account etc) I have to step in and help them resolve it. The situation used to be I'd translate for them over the phone or in person, but nowadays I'm speaking on behalf and resolving the issues myself. They aren't even in the room a lot of the time because of our various work schedules.

I'm basically advocating for them which makes me incredibly anxious. I was too young to be involved with any of the initial paperwork, so whenever an issue arises I have to do a lot of catching up and try and make sense of the situation. Money is usually involved in the equation and I feel an incredible amount of pressure to do right by them, to make sure they're not being taken advantage of.

As I said, this all started when I was a teenager so it's been going on for some time. I've always felt a little stuck in between worlds; I don't do enough to qualify as an "official" carer, but I can't live my life like an average 20-something year old either. It's very isolating and I often feel confused and resentful of my situation.

Hi all, I've known about my hypermobility for many years (I'm in my late 20s and realized when I was a teenager). But my knowledge on the subject was rather limited, I knew it could cause issues over time but I didn't truly understand the extent.

Well, I hurt my back last month and the physiotherapists reckons there's SI irritation as well because of the way I hurt myself. He also said I scored very high on the hypermobility scale, especially in my hips (my knees on the other hand, very sturdy).

My back is on it's way to healing but my SI/hip/groin region alternates between feeling numb and feeling painful (sore in some areas, pinch-y in others). This is where I want to ask people for advice: how am I supposed to navigate this in a way that's conducive to healing? I've been doing some physio (most of them involved lying down, engaging my core and moving my legs), low intensity walks, and amending my sleeping positions (pillow in between legs if I'm on my side, or on my back with my legs bent).

But I'd like to throw some stretches in there to relieve tightness. I'm sure you guys understand how big of a minefield that is. I can get a deep stretch but that doesn't mean it's good for me. I need to make sure doing the right types of stretches AND doing it in a way that doesn't over extend my already exhausted joints.

There's the mental side of it too, it has been very emotionally draining and I still feel anxious about various things. Despite doing every I can (I've got 2 other posts on this if people are curious). I'm trying to be optimistic and look toward the future. But I'd love some advice and solidarity to give me strength!!

Hi everyone, I recently asked for milky perfume recommendations in the daily discussion thread. (Specifically: latonic perfumes that aren't overly sweet and lean more towards warm and spicy). Thank you to those who replied with their recommendations, I'm dying to try blanche bete and see what it's all about.

That got me thinking, what makes a perfume 'milky'? It might be a silly question because it's like asking what makes a perfume smell floral. Flowers, obviously. But I feel like it's not so straightforward with latonic perfumes.

Many so-called 'creamy' perfumes rely on desserts; ice cream, marshmallow, sundaes etc etc, which focus on notes like vanilla or coconut. The scent is advertised as rich and milky, but the latonic notes are more...implied? Like the presence of those soft-sweet notes is enough to suggest milkiness even when there isn't any actual latonic notes.

I find Kayali's Musk Latte and Lush's Tumeric Latte to be very enjoyable (honourary shout out to Ellis milk perfumes as well). The coffee contrasts with the milky scent, making it rich without being heavy. But going back to my original point, Tumeric Latte doesn't actually have any milky notes in it (Musk Latte does). Yet, it feels undeniably latonic to me. So what's the deal??

This is an update to my previous post. To sum up what happened: I bent my legs and back in an awkward position, which caused sharp lower back pain and altered sensation in my groin/intimate area. Went to A&E initially, then my GP, who recommended physio.

I believe I was seen quite quickly because of the nature of my issues. I was skeptical and pessimistic because I've used the self referral service before with limited results. But I'm happy to say I'm in better place mentally because of my appointment. The physiotherapist was patient and understanding, I felt like he really took the time to listen to my issues and tried to put me at ease.

My symptoms have evolved somewhat; groin numbness that comes and goes is still around, back pain has improved but legs and feet are pretty sore. Everything around my hip flexors are super tender as well. I conveyed this to the physiotherapist, explained my injuries, as well as my hypermobility.

we spent about 25-30 minutes testing my reflexes, checking my lower half and gauging my hypermobility- unsurprisingly, I scored very high especially in the hips. (I was incredibly sore afterwards, oof). His verdict is, back strain as well as sacroiliitis, which is where a lot of the groin and leg discomfort was coming from. Now, that's basically what the GP said to me but it's a hell of a lot more comprehensive than "just nerve irritation". I felt like I understood the issue a lot better after the appointment which means I can kind of put the situation to bed.

However, I'm still conscious of the fact the symptoms are still here. The back pain is the only thing that's gotten noticeably better and no scans have been offered. I've been given the option for a repeat referral should symptoms remain the same, so I'm keeping that in mind and monitoring the situation as I go. I asked for some physio exercises to strengthen that area and I'll continue to stretch frequently and hope for the best.

The take away is, I still don't have definitive answers and I'm still worried. But it was worth asking for help because I feel like I'm slowly piecing things together.

(originally posted on r/backinjury but I thought I'd try my luck here as well. Thank you in advance!)

Hi everyone, I haven't been able to talk about this with the people in my life due to feelings of shame and embarrassment. But I feel it's gotten to the point where I need some feedback and reassurance, so I'm reaching out here.

Let me start from the beginning: 

Around two weeks ago, I was sitting with poor posture with my legs in an awkward position. I felt a sharp pain in my lower back after bending to the left.  It's hard to explain because I'm hypermobile and my legs can contort into unusual shapes. Anyway, I've experienced back strain once before and knew something was up. I figured a bit of pain relief and a warm shower will help, I'll just take it easy for the next few weeks until it feels better. 

An hour later, I began to feel an unusual sensation in my groin. It wasn't full on numbness or pins and needles but it didn't feel normal either.  My back in pain but my lower half wasn't, I could use the bathroom as normal, my gait was fine and I still had (reduced) sensation in that area. But I called 111 and they advised a trip to A&E just in case. Long story short, they concluded everything was likely fine and I can continue with my normal activities so long as I kept an eye on things.

However, the issue of altered and reduced sensation persisted after my trip to A&E. I started to get really anxious and paranoid about it. The classic "what if it's like this forever?", "how will this impact intimacy?", "will I eventually lose my ability to use the bathroom independently?" There were simply too many unknowns and I was left feeling physically and emotionally crushed. It wasn't something I felt like I could share with the people in my life. So, I contacted my GP a few days ago and had them do another examination. They said the injury is likely muscular in nature and the numbness stems from nerve irritation. It should fade as I continue healing.

As of now: I've noticed a couple of things that make it worse. The biggest one is sleeping on my left (injured) side and sitting for prolonged periods of time. My hip flexors are quite tender at the moment, especially the left side. I occasionally get muscle spasms in my legs and tingling in my toes.

It's not all anxiety and despair, the sensation comes and goes so it's not like I'm in numbness mode all the time- and I've started to experience long stretches of "normality" in the past couple of days. Realistically, I'm sure the doctors are correct and I'll be okay. But I'm still occasionally hit with waves of anxiety. Like I'll often wake up feeling numb (because I've been in the same position for hours), sometimes that feeling fades after a little while. Other times it seems to stick around. That type of uncertainty is so bad for my brain, so any reassurance and anecdotes will be greatly appreciated.

Hi everyone, I haven't been able to talk about this with the people in my life due to feelings of shame and embarrassment. But I feel it's gotten to the point where I need some feedback and reassurance, so I'm reaching out here.

Let me start from the beginning: 

Around two weeks ago, I was sitting with poor posture with my legs in an awkward position. I felt a sharp pain in my lower back after bending to the left.  It's hard to explain because I'm hypermobile and my legs can contort into unusual shapes. Anyway, I've experienced back strain once before and knew something was up. I figured a bit of pain relief and a warm shower will help, I'll just take it easy for the next few weeks until it feels better. 

An hour later, I began to feel an unusual sensation in my groin. It wasn't full on numbness or pins and needles but it didn't feel normal either.  My back was painful but my lower half wasn't, I could use the bathroom as normal, my gait was fine and I still had (reduced) sensation in that area. But I called 111 and they advised a trip to A&E just in case. Long story short, they concluded everything was likely fine and I can continue with my normal activities so long as I kept an eye on things.

However, the issue of altered and reduced sensation persisted after my trip to A&E. I started to get really anxious and paranoid about it. The classic "what if it's like this forever?", "how will this impact intimacy?", "will I eventually lose my ability to use the bathroom independently?" There were simply too many unknowns and I was left feeling physically and emotionally crushed. It wasn't something I felt like I could share with the people in my life. So, I contacted my GP a few days ago and had them do another examination. They said the injury is likely muscular in nature and the numbness stems from nerve irritation. It should fade as I continue healing.

As of now: I've noticed a couple of things that make it worse. The biggest one is sleeping on my left (injured) side and sitting for prolonged periods of time. My hip flexors are quite tender at the moment, especially the left side. I occasionally get muscle spasms in my legs and tingling in my toes.

It's not all anxiety and despair, the sensation comes and goes so it's not like I'm in numbness mode all the time- and I've started to experience long stretches of "normality" in the past couple of days. Realistically, I'm sure the doctors are correct and I'll be okay. But I'm still occasionally hit with waves of anxiety. Like I'll often wake up feeling numb (because I've been in the same position for hours), sometimes that feeling fades after a little while. Other times it seems to stick around. That type of uncertainty is so bad for my brain, so any reassurance and anecdotes will be greatly appreciated.

Hi everyone! I'm a beginner who haven't skated in a few years but looking to get back into the hobby. Before I made a post a few years ago about my skates feeling 'stiff'. In short, I really struggled with turns and bubbles. My skates just wouldn't turn no matter how much I tried to lean on the edges.

People recommended I loosen my trucks which should help with fluidity. But my question is: how do I know that's the issue and not my skills? It's entirely possible I'm just not doing it right and my trucks are completely fine. Maybe I should film myself and see how it looks?

I've tried to gauge how loose my trucks are but it's hard to know because of my inexperience. I can lean the boot side-to-side but the wheels don't seem to move or lean with them (if that makes sense). So it feels like there's very little movement in the horizontal bar that connects the wheels.

For reference, I have a pair of second hand lmnade quads which were in decent shape when I purchased them. I don't know if the previous owner made any adjustments.