u/midwestindigoo21

My child is 17 months old and I recently put her in daycare because I just couldn’t do it anymore being a SAHM. She’s only in part time but I genuinely am feeling like I need to put her in full time because I dread being off of work and being home alone with her. When she’s with me all she does is cry and it makes me feel like absolute shit. She’s teething and becoming more verbal so it’s all developmentally appropriate I’m sure but it’s just so hard to be screamed at all day over every single thing.

I feel miserable and i wanted so badly to like being a mom and j thought id like the toddler phase because the newborn phase was such hell for me but clearly that’s not the case

My 17 month old is allergies to peanuts, eggs and sunflower and right now when her daycare class (6 kids including her) eats lunch they put her by herself and put her chair by a stool for her. I understand toddler are grabby and they like to steal other kids food but this just feels a bit wrong and isolating for her?

I’m not blaming them, we just started and it’s being done to keep her safe but I’ve been trying to think of a way to have them have her at the table with everyone else like maybe I have a placemat and use it at home and at daycare so she knows her food is only on the placemat and not to eat anything not on the placemat? She doesn’t have a history of anaphylaxis but all three result in stomach upset and hives.

Or if her being at the table isn’t a possibility then buying her something that’s actually a table so she’s not eating off of a stool.

I just don’t know what to say or how to say it because I don’t think they have ill intentions but I don’t think they were as prepared for allergies as they said they were. If anyone has kids in daycare or school who has allergies how have they handled them?

My daughter (1.5) is allergic to sunflower, peanuts, and eggs. The daycare can provide breakfast and snacks but they don’t provide lunch, no problem but for now they want me to pack her snacks and breakfast until they can figure what they have that she can have. All good but 4 meals for a toddler takes up so much space I feel like I’m way overpacking her meals.

I’m going to ask them if I can pack both of her snacks in the same lunch box or if breakfast and morning snack can go in the same box just so I don’t have to have 4 different containers because they don’t have a fridge so I have to have them in a lunch box with ice. Unfortunately prepackaged foods are hard to find for my LO because of her allergies so almost all of them need to have their temperature maintained.

Right now for breakfast I have a bento box with sliced banana, yogurt and some star puff baby snacks, for her snack she has cucumber and bell pepper and ranch (90% Greek yogurt “ranch”) and some pirate booty and cheese. For lunch she has turkey and cheese pinwheels, more cucumber and “ranch” and strawberries. It’s honestly more than she needs but I put foods I know she will at least take a bite of.

Definitely obviously ftm first time putting kid in daycare activities 😭 I’ve just been freaking out because I have to work again and I want it to go smoothly. We’ve been soft launching daycare this week since she’s only part time. Monday we did 8-11am today we’re doing 7-12pm and Friday I have to work and we’re doing 8-3. I’m so scared about Friday for her nap and because I have to work that day. I know they’ve experienced everything but it’s still nerve wracking

ESPECIALLY when it’s used to shake formula moms. There are many reasons a mom can switch to formula, whether that’s by choice or necessity all of which are enough of a reason.

I personally switched because my daughter had many food allergies and no matter what elimination diets failed and didn’t work. So in my own experience breast was not best for my baby, in fact the switch to formula changed my baby from an angry worm to a happy sweet girl. Something that would have never been possible without it.

Can it be best for some people? Absolutely! And good for you if that’s the case! But also the benefits of breastfeeding are not inherently better than the benefits of switching to formula. And a lot of the statistics are skewed and inaccurate because like most childhood studies kids are incredibly different from person to person and even sibling to sibling.

But to say breast is best to a mother who switched for mental health reasons (or any other reason) is absurd. Why are you saying that the potential of reduced obesity or illness is better than a mom struggling daily?? I’d like you to know my formula fed baby is a perfectly healthy toddler and meeting and surpassing milestones.. but also you could have a breastfed baby who’s a bit chunky and falls behind on milestones because that’s just how children are, they’re not predictable.

I’m just tired of people pretending that what they chose to do is morally superior to others. Like I’m sorry but if I go to the grocery store I am (shockingly) not able to tell who was breastfed and who wasn’t. Like all toddlers end up eating the same mystery cheerio 😭

My 17 month old starts daycare Monday and I’m freaking out, I’m so scared she’s going to think I’m abandoning her :( it’s part time Monday, Wednesday, Friday and the first week we’re doing half days and one full day but I’m just scared. I’ve been a SAHM since she was born but unfortunately I have to work again so here we are.

Anyone have positive experiences starting at this age? I’m so scared of leaving my baby, don’t get me wrong I’m ready to work again it’s just a complicated feeling.

I’ve been a SAHM for 1.5 years now with my toddler and I’ve been so ready to go back to work but I’ve really put it off. Anyways the daycare next to the apartment had a part time spot open up and the price is not bad so she’s going to daycare!! Only part time because daycare stresses me out but I’m excited to feel like a person again and work a job again.

I ended up texting my old regional manager and asked if there were any positions open and he ended up giving me a great recommendation and putting me through to a different district manager to work at a store closer to where I live. I had a phone call with them today to see if I’d be a good fit for that location and I’m really hoping I get the job!! Thankfully if I don’t get the job at that specific location the old district manager said he would hire me at any of his stores so I have a back up plan!

This came really suddenly but I’m excited and I really want to go back to work. I’m just like praying I get the job at the location closer to me because it would be perfect 🤩 I’ve been really bummed and felt a bit stuck in life lately because of being a sahm so this working out the way it has the past few days is making me feel at least a bit better.

We have had a fridge issue since November, where it makes a very loud grinding noise nearly constantly. We’ve made 7 maintenance requests/and or attempts to contact the office including talking to the in person however today when we signed saying we’re moving out when our lease is up. They said we’ve never once said anything about the fridge. So I sent an email calling out their bs with the screenshotted proof of every single email, maintenance requests and phone call.

At this point I don’t even care about them fixing the fridge because we’re leaving, they had 6 freaking months to fix this shit. Anyways we have a few other issues that I’m worried about them charging us for when we move out. Our bathtubs were refinished really shittily before we moved in which caused the paint to peeled within immediately, however I didn’t take pictures of it peeling. You can still tell that it’s the way it was refinished, there’s clearly hair under the paint and bubbling and bad overspray but most of the paint on the bottom of both of our bathtubs is gone. Especially where the water drips (another ignored maintenance request)

I have photos and know the laws in Ohio so the rest is an easy fight to win like carpet or the old appliances and a few other things I have photos of. But it’s mostly the tubs I’m concerned about, we didn’t put maintenance requests in for it because obviously they weren’t going to do anything about it and if they did they didn’t do a good job the first time so why would I want them to do it again?? and I have a child I don’t want exposed to those fumes.

I’m really irritated because of them straight up lying to our faces about the fridge. :| I’m so glad we’re moving out of this hell, everything about this place has been horrible since the moment we moved in. Any advice is appreciated even if we’re in the wrong about the tubs, we don’t use harsh cleaners or scrubbers, we have a mat in one of the tubs which caused the paint peeling to be worse but the paint is still peeling in the tub with no mat.