u/mildlyferalcat

This is just a rant. I'm frustrated.

My parents have been pretty decent my entire life. But now that I'm getting older, I'm realising that the "freedom" they give me has levels to it.

A few days ago I had an argument with my mom about what clothes I wanna wear. Long story short, she basically told me that she "regrets giving me freedom" becuz I'm "taking advantage of it". I just wanted to wear the clothes I like and feel confident in.

I have wanted to do a part time job for the longest time but couldn't find one that offered a flexible schedule. Now that I'm sitting idle almost all day. I decided to get a job as a dog walker. Mainly becuz i want the money. I love buying stuff for myself. I HATE asking my parents for money cuz they always make it a big deal. They make me feel guilty for asking for stuff that I actually NEED. They say stuff like "why are you asking stuff from others, don't we give you enough money?". When I ask for it, I hear taunts about it for MONTHS. Plus, our financial condition is not the best.

Just a while ago today, i asked my mom if I could get a part time job as a dog walker. I thought she would say yes becuz we both are animal lovers and I'm good with dogs + i would have some money of my own since I HATE asking them for money (i didn't tell her this); but she immediately made a face and said "not at all".

I was lowkey stunned as to why she would refuse to let me do that because its not smth illegal, its not that physically demanding, i have experience with walking dogs plus i would have money of my own and it would teach me responsibility.

When I asked why, she started listing random ass reasons like I don't wake up early in the morning, i don't exercise, I don't focus on my health, how I'm not consistent in anything, I don't post videos on my YouTube channel enough (i have a yt channel dedicated to my pets) etc. I told her that NONE of these reasons are valid for what I'm talking about.

Then she started acting like her head is hurting and she's in so much pain (she always does this whenever I try to talk to her about smth she doesn't like so that I drop the topic).

Then she asked me "did you ask your father?" I said "I will but he's just gonna tell me to ask you again", then she said "then tell him I said no".

At this point I was SO pissed becuz she made such a big deal out of this small ass topic.

I tried explaining again calmly that I already know how to walk dogs, I like doing it, plus the money is going to teach me how to be responsible with it. But she refused to listen, saying I'm not gonna stay consistent and just gonna stop doing the job. I told her to atleast let me TRY. I also told her that many of my friends are also doing jobs or side hustles and earning money, but she refused to listen and understand.

I started crying becuz I was so frustrated and she said "what's there to cry about. You start crying about the smallest things. I go through way worse situations than you but I never cry in front of you." I just left the room at that point.

Right now, I'm frustrated, angry, and just pitying myself becuz even when I TRY to do smth good or responsible, My mom acts like this.

I will ask my dad about the job tomorrow, but I just know for sure he's gonna refuse too. Where I live, there is no culture of teenagers having part time jobs. Here, people think that if a child is doing a job, it's becuz the family is suffering from financial instability. And the parents here have the mentality that "We are providing for you, why do you need a job". People here think a teenager doing a job is smth low class and people JUDGE like crazy. I don't care about those people.

If my father also refuses even after me trying to convince him. I'm just gonna do the job without their permission. I'm fed up always asking them for money and them taunting me all the time becuz i asked for money.

I know people go through way worse situations with their parents. I'm not downplaying anyone's situation. I just need to let this off my chest.

I'm 18. My parents have been pretty decent my entire life except some instances. My father is mostly out for work so I don't get to interact with him as much as my mother.

I would say I was quite a difficult kid (throwing a lot of tantrums and all) but after 14-15, my behaviour got better (in my opinion).

Getting to the point. I'm going to start college soon and I need better clothes cuz my older outfits were mostly chosen by my mom and I wanna start dressing myself now. I like wearing a little revealing clothes, nothing crazy, just skirts and maybe a little deep neck (this doesn't mean I don't wear long pants or t-shirts, this is just an example). My mom's a good tailor, so she makes some outfits for me sometimes. I told her to make a skirt out of old jeans for me (the length was around mid thigh). She refused, said she doesn't like short clothes, "what's the need to show skin" she says. I calmly explained that I like wearing clothes like that, it makes me feel happy and confident in myself, but she wouldn't listen.

Another day, i showed her a top design and asked her if she could make something like this, she again said smth like this is too revealing. "It looks like a bra" she said. I again explained to her that she could make a different design. That's when she said "I have given you complete freedom since you were a child, now I feel like you're taking advantage of that freedom. I don't know what got into your mind now that you wanna wear clothes like this, I always dressed you modestly as a child." I was lowkey stunned and didn't know what to say, I just left the room. Usually, I would've argued like crazy, but I have just lost the energy for that, she would just say "my head hurts, don't talk to me" or "Who are you to argue with me" EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And when I tell her that she doesn't talk to me about the things that matter properly and just comes up with some excuse, she says "okay fine, i never talk to you properly. I'll just stop speaking, don't talk to me."

Also, her behaviour has changed a lot in the past 3-4 months. She treats me like smth stuck to her shoe, looks at me with such hatred in her eyes, talks to me like she's talking to someone she absolutely despises. I know I'm at fault at some places. But I'm trying my best. I've lost all interest in talking to her or interacting with her. She just makes me feel like shit every time I try to converse with her. If I don't reply to her, or don't use the appropriate tone or expression while speaking, she gets angry. How do you expect me to converse with you if you speak so rudely with me all the time. I would just stop talking to her at all but I still depend on her for certain things. Now, all I do is doomscroll all day in my room to distract myself. I like to go out of the house to distract myself, but she has a problem with that too. She says I go out too much and will refuse to give permission to hangout with friends. Going out or meeting friends are one of the only things that makes me happy and keeps me distracted from crying 24/7.

Not looking for sympathy. Just needed to let it out. I don't particularly have friends that listen to me without making it about themselves. And I don't wanna burden them with my negativity anyways.

Do I need to get a gap certificate made for DU as a dropper.

If yes, what reason do i write for taking a gap? I can't put the actual reason in it.

Hi! I'm a cuet dropper and I'm hoping to get into DU this year. I'm pursuing bba/bms

I just wanna ask about some college from people who are attending those same colleges.

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1. Shaheed Sukhdev college of business studies

2. Deen Dayal Upadhyay college

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These are the colleges that will be on the top of my preference list. I just wanna ask how these colleges are in terms of campus, education quality, crowd, faculty behaviour, extracurriculars, etc.

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Help me out :)

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I'm a CUET UG dropper. I had to take a drop year cuz I didn't get a college becuz my marks weren't enough and DU barely has any colleges for the course i wanna pursue (hence, less seats). This year, I opted for Maths, English, Business Studies & GAT. I studied hard, maybe not enough, but I studied more than my capacity.

I'm weak at maths, the math & gat paper in my shift was quite difficult. Just looking at the question paper made me realize i was gonna perform poorly but I let it go. I thought I had performed well in english and Business Studies but my score is way less than what I expected. I know this is just the raw score and there will be changes in the normalization process but im still disappointed. My parents don't seem to be affected and are chill about it, but I cant help but feel this way. I'm not writing this for sympathy, I just wanna let it out somewhere. I just hope I get a good college and spend my college life peacefully. The drop year had already taken a toll on my mental health in ways I still keep denying.