u/milf_here_aoouu

I had enrolled for the classes on a learning platform but couldn't even start the courses due to mental health issues. Finally getting better and finished Scrum certification last week. My access to Prince2 foundation + practitioner courses end on July 31. I need absolutely rigorous ways to pass the exams before the access ends. Currently on a career break so I can invest my time promptly for this.

30F and I learned this 5 years ago. I still am very depressed and have to probably increase my meds dosage but therapy and meds made it slightly less painful to breathe. I hope this helps at least one of you because this homework is all in your mind to work out.

One of the very first lessons I learned in therapy while I was diagnosed with depression was that I had no boundaries. I allowed my boundaries to be stepped on and then got mad that it got stepped on or didn't even break someone's boundaries but felt guilty unnecessarily. This led to me overthinking almost every single action of mine in this lifetime.

Homework: Draw a table with two columns.
Under my control, my responsibilities/
Not under my control, not my responsibility.
You could literally apply this everywhere for yourself and for others. The examples I am going to give are in hopes that your intentions are not to hurt people and genuinely want to make relationships around you work but you seem to always find yourself overwhelmed and overthinking about your actions or reading too much in between the lines of other people's actions and reactions.

Example no.1 - Under your control: You finally get out of bed to make yourself a drink and don't pay attention to your surroundings. You drop a mug and it breaks. Now that it's broken, is it under your control to clean that up, be careful this time and make yourself a new cup? Absolutely. Since it's under your control, it's your responsibility. Whether you want to make another cup or not is your choice but owning up to breaking your first mug and cleaning it up is under your control so it's your responsibility.
Example no. 2 - Not under your control: Generally speaking when you do something with good intentions and someone takes offence to it, the good deed is in your control. To be considerate of what would be ok for them is under your control BUT their reaction, whether acceptable or unacceptable for you, is not under your control. You cannot dictate how someone feels and their emotions are not under your control so it's not your responsibility. You build it up as a.) If you want to make them feel better, you apologise and explain your good will since it's under your control and you take responsibility or b.) you feel like you're justified in your actions and their emotions are beyond your control, then it's not your responsibility and go about your day.

This is actually quite subjective yet easy to apply in day today life if you grasp the concept of it. Writing them down helped me. Mentally healthy people with steady lives actually work it out smoothly. If you have different scenarios you can comment them and I can try my best to sort it out.