Feeling absolutely terrible and defeated
My 18 month old daughter has had recurrent ear infections for months. Dealing with a sick toddler is exhausting and I feel so bad for her. Her doctor referred her to a paediatrician, who told me she isn't talking very well for her age but told me not to worry as both her ears are blocked and it's more than likely a reason it's caused a speech delay. He also heavily pushed for me to enrol her in childcare. I am a SAHM, and I honestly just don't want her to go to childcare. Ive already organised when she's two, to go to mum and bub groups for social interaction.
Anyway, the paediatrician referred us to an ENT surgeon. I heard great things about this doctor, and was glad I was seeing a well regarded specialist. My mother came with me to the appointment as my husband was working.
This doctor was extremely arrogant, told me the reason she's getting so many infections in her ears is because I don't send her to childcare and "I should know she has a low immune system from not sending her to childcare because I worked as an educator". Proceeded to ask me if I am planning to have anymore children, I said not at the moment, and he responded with "yeah, I wouldn't either. She has a lot of problems."
Then, at the end of the appointment he told me she's slow. This really angered me and I said "she's not slow, she can't talk very well because her ears are blocked." which he agreed with me. WTF. I signed paperwork to get her down for adenoids removed and grommets put in and I really wish I didn't because I don't want anything to do with this doctor. I wish I just went and looked for another surgeon instead.
I cried all the way home. I'm trying my absolute best. I feel like I'm failing her.