u/monkharaplage

আজকে একটা নিউজ রিপোর্ট দেখলাম ব্রাহ্মণবাড়িয়ার পাসপোর্ট অফিস নিয়ে। সেখানে কর্মরত মোটামুটি সবাই দুর্নীতিবাজ, অথবা কোনো না কোনোভাবে পরোক্ষভাবে ভাগ পায়। দিনে ইনকাম প্রায় চার লাখ টাকা। আমিও জানি, এই তথ্য সত্যি। কয়েক বছর আগে পাসপোর্ট করতে গিয়ে বেশ ভালো রকমের বেহুদা হয়রানির শিকার হয়েছিলাম। আমার কৌতূহলের জায়গাটা মূলত এইসব দুর্নীতিবাজ লোকজনের সন্তানদের নিয়ে। যেমন, এই যে রিপোর্টটা হলো; এটা নিশ্চয়ই তাদের সন্তানদের বন্ধু-বান্ধবরাও দেখবে। তারা কি এসব নিয়ে লজ্জা বোধ করে? নাকি দুর্নীতির টাকা বেশ উপভোগ করে? নিজের কাছে কীভাবে বিষয়টা জাস্টিফাই করে? কোনো গিল্ট কাজ করে কি? বন্ধু বা পরিচিতদের কাছে শেমিংয়ের শিকার হয় কি? ইত্যাদি। আপনাদের পরিচিত কোনো দুর্নীতিবাজের সন্তান থাকলে, তাদের হয়ে মতামত জানাতে পারেন। অথবা আপনার বাবা-মায়ের কেউ দুর্নীতিবাজ হলে, নিজের অভিজ্ঞতা শেয়ার করতে পারেন। ধন্যবাদ।

I recently joined a mono-poly support group out of curiosity and all I see is the same common guilt-tripping (exclusivity is controlling), manipulation (you have to unlearn and keep working on your emotions) and gaslighting (the only emotions you're allowed to feel are compersion). It's a bunch of poly people calling this "support."

Tbh, I no longer feel empathy for the mono people too who are suffering and seeking this type of support. Like, how low does your emotional intelligence have to be to fall for this?

Another thing I've noticed is that poly people don't seem to care about their other poly partners' feelings either. E.g., one partner is feeling low, but the other one will go sleep with someone they just met on Tuesday, saying, "Why should I sacrifice my joy for what you're feeling?"

I think their cult became so unhealthy when most of them started invalidating others' emotions.

The incident occurred in Thakurgaon, where three of her friends gang-raped her. In the news report, she described the horrific details in front of the camera. Yet people in our country treated it as entertainment. The post received more than 10k haha reactions, and the comments were filled with victim blaming. Many questioned whether it was really rape and argued that girls should be married off at a young age. I do not know what to feel about this or what to say about the people of our country. Most comments came from religious perspective and claimed that Afghanistan is better.

How do you feel about the conservative people in this country? Will this country ever change when most people think this way?

I wrote something opposite previously and it got removed. I hope this time it stays.

I genuinely do not understand how Bangladeshi political leaders go to international human rights conferences with smiling faces while the reality of this country is completely opposite.

Almost the entire political environment here is against homosexuality or even basic human rights discussions. Women are still in a terrible position in many parts of society. Child labor still exists openly. Labor rights are weak. Freedom of expression depends on politics. These issues can go on and on.

Yet these same politicians stand on international stages talking about human rights, democracy, dignity, and justice as if Bangladesh is some morally progressing country.

Isn’t that shameful? How can anyone feel proud of a country where so many people are denied basic dignity while political leaders pretend everything is fine in front of the world?

I know this is a Muslim majority country, but I also hear that it is a secular country. I was thinking about whether there is any political party that boldly talks about it. After all, human rights are more important than what the majority of religious people want.

Besides that, I know leftist people always seem very serious about human rights. Is there any leftist party, even a small one, that directly talks about supporting LGBTQ rights? Why not?