u/mooncentipedes

I'm choosing a gamepad, and 8bitdo Ultimate 2 or Pro 3 look like the best choices for my needs all around. However, I have larger than average hands - 20 cm - and I'm seeing a lot of complaints about ergonomics of these controllers for large hands on the web, especially because of narrower grips angle. I used three pads in my life - Xbox 360, Dualshock 4, and Xbox Series. All of them were comfortable for me.

For people who have similar hands size and maybe used these controllers, how do you feel about 8bitdo' ergonomic compared to them? Would appreciate any feedback.

I`m choosing a new controller after my Xbox Series one decided to stop turning on.

Budget: $40-70 (4000-6000 rub)

Country: Russia. Can order through Aliexpress.

Platform: PC.

Things I want from a pad:

1. I want it to last for a long time. I used Xbox Series controller and a Dualshock 4 in the past and I was really disappointed with their quality, they broke pretty soon.
2. Good long-lasting sticks, preferably TMR since it's the latest tech. I also want them to feel good while aiming in shooter games.
3. Good dpad that is at least okay for 2D games.
4. Extra buttons, paddles etc.
5. Xbox-like or Dualshock/Sense-like shape. My hands are 20 cm long and Xbox ergonomics felt perfect. DS4 was also nice. I never used Dualsense, but assume its close to DS4.
6. Good gyroscope. I'm very interested to try gyro aiming for the first time and I'm planning to keep this pad for as long as it works.
7. Charging dock with seamless performance.
8. Wired and 2,4G dongle connection, Xinput and Dinput, working Steam Input and gyro.
9. Mechanical face buttons would be nice if that means that they're less likely to break, but not a necessity.

Games I play: FPS, TPS, any kind of action games (soulslikes, DMC-type games, etc), RPGs (both western and JP), horrors, and I use various emulators. Occasionally I might play 2D games like Silksong, so I need dpad to be at least moderately good for them, but that's not a priority. I don't play any competitive, multiplayer games, or fighting games.

I researched a bit, 8bitdo Ultimate 2, 8bitdo Pro 3, and Gamesir Cyclone 2 seem to be the best choices, but I heard a lot of complaints about Ultimate 2's shape being uncomfortable for bigger hands so I worry It wont suit me, and I heard that it's dpad has inconsistent input. Feedback about Cyclone 2 gyro performance seems to be contradictory - apparently It's not very good, worse than U2's. And Pro 3 seems to not have wireless gyro capability on PC. I would really like a controller that's basically U2 but with an Xbox shape and comparable gyro perf, however I don't seem to find one like that. I also really hate gamey futuristic designs, but everything outside of 8bitdo seems to look like that, so i guess I'll have to concede that.

I also looked at Vader 5 pro, but I don't think I need features like trigger sensitivity or stick tension rings, would have preferred something cheaper, and also heard a lot of negative opinions about it's dpad and gyro.

I would really appreciated any advice on this, thanks in advance.