u/moonmidheaven

Hi there! ISO resources for packing & moving help. My spouse has a broken arm and broken wrist, and I am in possibly the worst chronic illness flare up of my life - haven’t been able to be upright for more than 15 minutes at a time without being extremely dizzy. (suspected but not yet diagnosed csf leak) 🧘🏼‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️ We can start moving into our new place (~2 mins away from current place) on 8/15, and we have this current place through the end of August.

Right now, we don’t have much packed. We also will need help moving the heavy pieces especially.

I reached out to Hot Mess Express, but didn’t hear back so far. Anyone have any other ideas or leads? We can’t afford to pay much. Thanks in advance for any ideas you have!

Hey y’all. I’ve been dealing with some symptoms that suggest I may have a spinal csf leak, and I have a neurology appointment tomorrow. I’m at a place where I can’t be upright for more than 5 minutes without feeling truly awful, and if it takes weeks before I can get an MRI… how will I live like this? I doubt they’d be able to send me for one same day. Right? This feels so scary. I’m nauseous. There’s so much pressure in my head when I stand up. My ears are ringing. My walk is weird. The lights are too bright. I’m freaked out. I’m a 35 year old mother to 3. They need me. Can someone offer some reassurance, please? I know no one can give me medical advice etc but I’m alone and could use some supportive words from people who might understand.

I will likely delete this. It’s mostly a vent. I know no one can really tell me what to do.

My spouse (35mtf) and I (35cisf) have been together for a decade. We have children. I have been the sole person working for a long time - since 2017. At the time, I was making enough to sustain our family and I wanted to give her space to work on her passion as well as heal from a traumatic relationship before she and I got together.

Fast forward to now - the same problems are still present. She is still constantly staying up late and sleeping the daytime away. I don’t think I can have another conversation about why that’s not okay.

It’s been 9 months since I told her she *had* to get a job, or we wouldn’t make it. Guess who had to put groceries on a credit card? It’s been three weeks since I said we needed to pack at least one box a day to be ready for our move at the end of the summer.

I am chronically ill and have gotten sicker and sicker over the years, as I’ve overextended myself more and more. I really used to believe she was going to get help, and going to do better, and going to show up for us. I don’t think I do anymore.

She is always doing the best she can. She always feels terrible about it. Etc etc etc. I’ll never know what it’s like for her inside her head.

I thought when she came out that it was going to be the moment where things started to get better, but it hasn’t been.

It’s really hard for me. I don’t want to leave, but I don’t know how much longer I can do this. I love her so much, and continuing this way is going to kill me. I am struggling to be compassionate. Everything about our relationship is good, except this. I don’t know why she can’t accept that she is an adult with responsibilities and beings that depend upon her and I for survival. I’ve never left someone that I still loved, and it’s not the ending I want for us. I don’t know what else I can say or do here.