u/mortandrickyYY

I’ve just moved into a house with a conservatory in SE England. Never worked with a conservatory before. It’s south facing. It’s got UPVC glass above, UPVC doors facing my garden, and walls on the sides, with tiny UPVC windows just above 5 feet.

I wasn’t sure how my houseplants would handle living in a conservatory. It’s been extremely sunny for the past few weeks and we also had a cold snap recently where temperature outside went down to 2°C overnight. I don’t think this jade gollum is doing too well although its roots don’t smell or look mushy. I also have a jade plant and pothos that live in the space conservatory and they’re doing fine. The pothos is thriving!

Any advice on how to revive this, and also in general how to grow houseplants in my conservatory? Thanks very much for all your help!

Husband and I have been married 5 years. It was not an arranged marriage, although we never lived together. In fact, it was long distance the entire time.

2025 was a drastically terrible year for us personally: husband lost his FIL to cancer (it was traumatic for us all), we got in a car accident, we almost died in a flight accident, I had a major gym injury that continues to flare up even today (1 year later).

We just bought a house. Things have been HECTIC - moving out, moving in, repairing and organising repair work - all while working full time and doing ghar ka kaam ourselves. We live in a western country where we don’t get any domestic help.

My mother is with us from India to help us as she’s resourceful, organised, and creative. I’ve taken leave because we’re both working on different aspects of the house. Every evening, I notice, it’s just me and my mother cleaning up after dinner while my husband nicely goes to take a shower after dinner. Then he’ll casually spend an hour in bed reading and relaxing, while my mother and I clean up the kitchen and dining spaces.

Today, I asked him to please not do that anymore as I need a partner who’s present, who contributes. His answer was that my mother and I are on holiday, so we should all take it easy, and that he’s spent the whole day in the office, so that’s his contribution.

This is after he’s enjoyed and complimented my mother’s alu paratha, dosa, sabudana etc etc - things I don’t normally make here. I baked a fancy bread and a fancy cake because my mother is with us. I don’t think he’s entitled to even a piece of these treats because he obviously doesn’t appreciate the effort that goes into this.

Needless to say, intimacy is at an all time low.

I just don’t know what to say to him. This is not a new issue. We’ve had the SAME argument for years now. I’m reaching out to my usual Indian therapist whom I see online. But is there anything I can tell him now without being too conflicting and damaging the relationship?

Succulent exposed to harsh sun and cold spring night in conservatory. Is it dead?