u/mountain_dweller_co

Hi! I’m having a dilemma… I have a great hairstylist who can do my wedding hair, and I also have a friend who is a hairstylist who can also do my wedding hair, but I am debating just doing it myself. Am I crazy? I have super long thick hair that is naturally cowlicky and slightly wavey.

My entire life, none of my hair stylists have really been able to nail my hair the way I do and after every salon visit I wash my hair and restyle as soon as I get home because it never looks as good as I can do it myself. So, now I’m thinking of saving myself the time and money of most likely not liking the way my hair will look on my wedding day if I have someone else do it.

I want to leave my hair down and just curl the ends and maybe put a clip in it, which I can do myself.

What do you all think? Am I being crazy for wanting to do my own hair? Should I just have someone else do it and trust that it looks good even if I’m not loving it? Is it crazy to pay for a hairstyle that I might not like or end up having to redo??? I’d love to hear your thoughts. TIA 🙏

I am a stay at home mom who has been looking on and off for flexible part time work for the past three years. Things will get easier for me schedule wise once my little one starts preschool this fall, but I definitely would like some income before then. I started job hunting again recently and found the perfect job for me that exactly fit my qualifications and was in the nonprofit industry in which I previously worked. I applied, in ZipRecruiter, and got an application view immediately and then a thumbs up and another application view. I was over the moon because I was also really aligned with this particular nonprofits values as well as the actual job.

I checked my email every day for a response and got nothing. Then two weeks later it finally dawned on me to check my junk mail, and lo and behold there was the email. Ugh… they emailed me right away… I literally cried and then reached out to the recruiter letting them know what happened. Obviously, it was too late and they are in the process of hiring another candidate but also mentioned that they felt disappointed too because I was the best candidate….

Needless to say, I have been beating myself up over my stupid and embarrassing mistake… this was literally exactly what I have been looking for and I just can’t believe I didn’t check my junk mail.

My experience is more senior level, and I feel like these jobs are so hard to come by, and I’ve been applying for all level jobs just because we could use some extra money lately.

I have been super stressed out being a full time mom and also back in school pursuing another degree and maintaining a 4.0 gpa while also doing everything at home since January because of my husband being sick with a mysterious illness that he has been going to specialists to try to figure out the issue, and we’re also in the middle of planning the wedding we postponed to have our baby. I just have a lot on my plate these days and this just hurts right now.

Has anyone else made a job related mistake that cost them a job but then were able to dust their boots off and move forward with hope? Or, maybe to have something even better come along?? I’d love to hear that I’m not alone and that things work out.