u/mountainjuliet

For those of you who are low contact with your milfh, how did you handle them meeting the baby? The very thought of her coming near my baby makes me irrationally upset, but i also respect that this is also my husbands baby and he is not ready to go NC with his family. At minimum I'm wanting to wait a month for me to be well recovered. I almost dont want to be around for it, but also dont want them thinking they can be around my kid without me.

I havent spoken to my mil my entire pregnancy. We've been VERY low contact since my husband had a big fight with her and fil about how she treats me. She then spent over a year and a half after that complaining to my husband about how they barely see us anymore, and every time my husband would tell her bluntly that she knows why, and if she wants to fix things she can start by writing me an apology over text. He specifically told her she need to do it over text so I can have the time and space to process it. She refused to do so and eventually "took her chance" when she saw us in person at a family gathering, at whoch she proceeded to "apologize" without admitting any guilt, and just saying "so can we go back to how things were now?" To which I responded that no, we wont be going back to the way things were. (Because I really dont want to go back to bending over backwards for her to do nothing but insult, belittle, and attempt to control our lives through me in return) right after that we found out I was pregnant and I havent seen them since. My husband told them about the baby on his own, and she tried emotionally manipulating him by crying and saying "i just hope i can be in the babys life". Again, I havent seen or spoken to her or fil this entire pregnancy, and when my husband informed her that we wouldnt be having ANYONE at the hospital she apparently became very shocked and insulted. I just cant believe after all of this she STILL thinks she would be invited to the hospital, where i will be recovering, after I havent spoken to her in MONTHS 😆 I swear these milfh are delusional

We cant seem to get a decent photo of our baby. He has been set in the same position since 17 weeks. We get an ultrasound every appointment because the obgyn i go to believes it helps reassure mothers baby is doing well and overall have a better pregnancy, so we've had MANY attempts to getting a pic of this baby. He always has his hands in his face and i swear his nose looks wildly different every time. Its gotten to the point Im genuinely stressed out about his nose. Ive had full (pregnancy hormone led) cries over how his nose looks weird. Our most recent one looks the worst. I keep seeing people posting 3d ultrasounds vs their newborn pic and how their babies basically look exactly like their ultrasound.

Did anyone else have a difficult to photograph baby? Did they look wildly different compared to when they were born. Because I swear he looks immensely different every time and often looks like a lump of clay got dropped.

Im getting really tired of people depicting little boys as automatically messy, loud, and impossible to handle. Whereas girls are depicted as sweet, kind, and easy. Like youre having a girl and its so exciting because you get a little angel but if youre having a boy people start talking about how "you can raise a good one" "the world needs more good men". Like I'm doing a service to my country or something!? Is anyone else experiencing this or am I crazy?

Ive struggled with body dysmophia since I was a young teen, so i knew pregnancy wouldnt be easy for me, but i just feel so gross. Everyone says I'm all belly (more like boobs and belly XD) but it doesnt help in how gross i feel. My boobs literally grew 3x within the first 2 months and I feel like theres no possible way my belly could be bigger, but I still have a ways to go (currently 31+3) I just dont feel pretty or feminine at all.

My husband has always been a little bit of a grumpy when hes cold. Im the opposite XD I like the cold, winter is my favorite season etc.

I keep trying to get videos of baby moving, he'll be super active but when I try to take a video he instantly stops. I finally figured out what it is... he moves like crazy when I have a blanket over my belly. I take the blanket off to take a video and he freezes up 🤦🏼‍♀️ put it back on and he goes straight back to moving and grooving.

My husband and I are looking at houses up in kalispell as his job is sending him up there, and so far every house (and we're looking for rural 1+ acre) has had covenants saying not only can we not own chickens, but not more than 2 pets (dogs or cats) ??? Is it not common to own chickens / multiple animals up there????

My husband and I are both from Montana (him born and raised, me moving here when I was little) he went into the military for awhile and got a good medical separation deal. He went back to school and got a job in his field up in kalispell. We were excited at first because it pays much better than the other cities do... except now were realizing why. I just want a good sized house to raise a family with some land for gardens and small animals. Why are yalls houses so expensive!? If we find a decent sized, or even just decently held up, house the location is horrendous but if we find decent land the house is literally falling apart but still too expensive to have money left over to fix up. We're expecting our first baby and the stress is quite literally tearing me apart. There have been maybe 3 houses we were really hopeful about and they got bought up literal HOURS after being listed! I check multiple times a day to see if theres anything new, but again, when there is, it's contingent so fast we dont even have a chance to set up a tour with our realtor. We're starting to wish he never accepted that job... kalispell is beautiful but its not worth this.

Why would people say something like this? Especially after my expressing my husband and I would like at least one of each someday.

Im expecting my first. My mother has bullied me my whole life with her "God given proficies". She for some reason has found it her life's mission to hurt me with these, including saying how I will have 3 boys and never any girls. I've saved a few things here and there for when I eventually do have kids, and every time it was something for a girl she'd tease me about how ill never have one.

Well expecting my first and everyone i know is guessing its a boy. And honestly it hurts. Especially since i found out it is a boy and im really struggling with gender disappointment. I havent told anyone its a boy, but I've had multiple comments now from people saying how they "just cant imagine me ever having a girl". I just don't understand why you would say something like that to someone, especially when they express they want both. It almost feels like they're saying i don't deserve a girl. Like a mini me in the world would be such a horrible thing.