u/mouthlikeawolf

I would like to say up front that I understand being a parent is hard, childcare is often gendered even within straight couples who are supposed to both be “on duty,” and moms are not well supported in my country. I understand childcare is very expensive. All of this I get.

What I don’t get is why being a mom becomes the end all be all for many mothers to the point that they feel rejected if you want to hang out one on one (no kids). I say many, not all, because I’m friends with a lot of parents and this is common but not universal. What am I missing? What should I be more thoughtful about or educate myself about?

thank you 🙏

edit: I can’t keep up with the responses so thank you all so much! I understand a lot more now 💜

edit 2: I’m not childfree by choice, please stop assuming that or bringing up the fact I’m childfree. Also, I don’t have any disdain for motherhood here—I just want to understand so I don’t hurt my friend or make her feel rejected again. I’m sorry if I didnt phase my question correctly.

Hi all! I’m potentially interested in SnoCoPDA. What is the office like? How is the mentorship for newer attorneys? What exactly does “hybrid” mean? How do benefits measure up to King County? Most importantly: do you like the job? What is your most and least favorite part of it? Thank you!! 🙏

Hi bitches! I’m trying to buy wool suits secondhand and have gotten lucky so far. However, someone once told me to never buy navy separates, only a navy suit set, because trying to match different navy shades is impossible. Have you found this to be true?

I’m looking at an MM LaFleur pair of slacks in “ink” and I’m tempted, but worried about finding a matching blazer. Does anyone have any experience with this shade or any advice? thank you so much!

Where are we buying suit shells that aren’t totally transparent? Bonus points if they aren’t synthetic fibers. Ideally each shell is $100 or less. I thrifted a silk t shirt that is perfect for wearing under a suit and I’m hoping to find more because button ups are not flattering and wrinkle easily. thanks bitches!

Rankings are out. I’m extremely happy with mine (top ~10%) but I also don’t know how much it matters in the real world instead of the law school pressure cooker. Is this something I should be putting on my resumé or is this just a nice thing to know? Should I touch grass? Thanks for your help

edit: thanks for your help. New question: does this matter even though I don’t intend to go into BL (personal reasons)? Thanks

rising 2L doing my summer job in public service. i spent all day today writing a memo about a pro se’s AI generated slop argument that didn’t make any sense but cited a bunch of cases. I didn’t really mind because the cases in question were super interesting, but the more I tried to understand the AI slop and argument the pro se person was making the worse my head hurt. Is this what practicing is like 🫠

I thrifted a dark grey wool blazer that fits like a glove. Banana Republic no longer sells the matching trousers. I was going to pair it with black slacks and a simple white button down. Do we think this outfit works or will it look unprofessional? Thanks for your help!

career services at my school told me that a JD is equivalent to a doctorate. seems fishy but okay. however my friend just informed me that Finnish PhDs get swords when they graduate. so my question: Finnish lawyers, did you get a sword once you graduated? Google says no but I’m hoping it’s mistaken