r/LawBitchesWithTaste

Is there any reason I shouldn’t wear a sleeveless shell as my top for a lateral associate interview? I guess I’m paranoid that there would be a situation where they’d say to take my suit jacket off, like at a lunch or something? (And I have a very tasteful and pretty tattoo sleeve that I’d rather not show off at a job interview.) Or is it just so unlikely that the jacket would come off / that I couldn’t simply politely decline to remove it?

It’s hot and humid as all hell and I’m a ~ sweaty girl ~ so I’d really prefer not to be stuck in a long sleeve shirt under my suit jacket.

My other options are just a normal button down, which is what I’ve always done for interviews and will look polished and cover my arms if for some reason the suit jacket comes off (and it’s dark enough that no sweat should be visible). But I’ve just never found a comfy button down.

I also have a long sleeve fitted cotton (? It’s soft?) shirt that would look like a shell, keep the arms covered, and is way more comfy than a button down.

Anyway, overthinking this? Or do I just do the normal default and where the stupid button down? Thanks!

Hello, fellow LBWTs. Considering purchasing a St. John tweed skirt suit second hand for about $500. How do their jackets fit? Are they generally TTS? Bust got bigger during perimenopause and now I have to think about them every time I buy a top or jacket. Super annoying.

Currently prepping for my bar exam. I noticed I've been consuming a lot more sugar- fizzy drinks, candies, cookies. Everytime I go to the supermarket I find myself leaving with multiple treats whereas I normally dont care much for sugar.

It just feels like my brain needs it. What can I do to reduce my reliance on sugar? coffee just doesnt do it for me. I usually go for energy drinks and then sugar for extra energy.

I'm worried about my health since this is turning into a daily habit. Also worried because realistically, down the line a legal career doesnt get much less intense or busy, so I dont want this to be a habit that sticks.

For vintage and not vintage clothing that isn't worn that often. If we do use mothballs how strong does the smell need to be to kill the critters? Thanks!

I’ve been weightlifting with a small personal training group for around 3 years. I love it, but I’m moving somewhere more remote and can’t make the commute work with my trial heavy job. The trainers I’ve met around my area aren’t really my cup of tea and seem unwilling to work around the couple of limitations from recurrent injuries I have.

Has anyone ever worked with an online trainer, either for remote sessions or having someone else write your programming? My ideal set up is someone who will write out workouts for me a few times per week with my fitness goals and limitations in mind. Anyone try this or have recommendations?

I looked for a Wirecutter review on Best Suits. Did they review Men's Suits? Darn right they did. Guess what kind of Women's Suits they reviewed? Swimsuits. Yup. I'm going to write to them (yes, I do that). WTF. I'm so tired of this crap.

Now my question: what does it mean when a Poshmark item says "Ad"? Is it safe to click on?

Throwaway account because this would be immediately identifiable to anyone involved.

I’m in-house counsel and was the client at an arbitration with outside counsel. Before the hearing even started, OC got into an argument with my attorney over seating. OC ripped a charger out of the wall and threw it across the room. It wasn’t thrown directly at me, but it was in my direction. My attorney and I both immediately told him that throwing objects was unacceptable.

OC then told me to “get your ass around the table.” I told him he couldn’t speak to me that way, and he responded that he’d speak to me however he wanted. I told him I intended to file a bar complaint.

OC immediately pulled out his phone and started taking pictures of me. He later claimed I had accused him of throwing the charger at me, so he was documenting the situation to “defend” himself. My attorney and I raised the entire incident on the record with the arbitrator, who did nothing.

OC told the arbitrator that I was smiling in the photos, so I couldn’t have been upset. I think many of you will understand that I smiled because I was uncomfortable and trying to defuse the situation with a man who was behaving aggressively towards me.

I’ve been practicing for over a decade and have never experienced anything remotely like this. Although I knew who he was, I’d never spoken to or interacted with OC before that day.

It’s been a few weeks, and I’m still disturbed by the encounter, particularly that he photographed me. I still want to file a bar complaint, but I’m not licensed in that state and, frankly, I’m intimidated. I also expect he’ll personally attack me in any response, which would be distressing.

I’m genuinely looking for honest advice. Am I overreacting, or should I follow through with filing a bar complaint?

Hey girls,

I would really appreciate some insight / someone to talk to about this subject. I’m feeling very vulnerable so please be nice to me as I might cry otherwise haha

I’m still very young (in my twenty’s) but going into law has been a mistake for me from the beginning. I enrolled into law after joining a friend of mine at their uni courses introduction day and I thought it wasn’t ’too bad’ (I wasn’t someone who was ready or looking forward to university. Ever since I was young I feel like I’ve been behind in big developments (I also have adhd and autism) and I didn’t know what to do or what I wanted to do so I chose what my friend chose so that atleast I wouldn’t be alone). I started law and I flew through my bachelors without doing any work really. This isn’t meant as a flex, as it made me feel very uncomfortable in my profession as I feel like I didn’t learn enough.

During my master degrees, I had a switch up as I realised that this profession is about grades and my C-grades wouldn’t be enough. I worked really hard, isolated myself, and graduated cum laude in two very tough niche market area’s. This also came from a major place of self hate, proving myself to my former teachers who bullied me that I can actually do it (I have a tax law and a public administrative law degree in environmental law).

Graduating cum laude blessed me with being able to develop a high functioning career quickly. I’m currently in a senior role already and I earn a very high salary (approximately 2,5-3 times the average monthly income here and I’m from Western Europe) but I’ve never felt more unhappy and burned out. I also can’t get myself to do the work, I work maybe a few hours a day before being burned out and I feel so guilty about it. I am a disc yellow person, while law is such a blue profession. I am not good at being precise, focusing on details and administrative work. I can do it but it depletes me and I make mistakes. I dream of being an entrepreneur (I have so many creative business ideas) or even a hairdresser, a health and lifestyle coach, a chef, walking around and doing something with people, healing them, listening to them, seeing those who feel lost. I would therefore consider being a mediator but I feel like it’s so hard to get into.

6 months ago I went into a job search spree and I tried to enroll in a different working field, but again and again the recruiters came back to me with
‘But why not work into law, we have great jobs for you in that department but not in any else because your profile doesn’t fit’

I feel so stuck that I’m considering just quitting and seeing where it goes. I feel like life will provide a way, a path, if I am for once saying no myself and walking away. If it helps: I’m (about to be) married, my rent is low, I could take a pay cut but I would have to look into my health costs (but tbh I think I need so much acupuncture because I’m so deeply unhappy and distressed)

If you read the whole thing: thank you so much! I would love some advice, a hug or some words of encouragement to leave.

I feel like these are the key pieces I’m missing in my workwear jewelry collection: a pair of classic diamond studs and a pair of simple thin gold hoops.

I’m fine with lab diamonds for the studs, but I have a metal allergy, so I need something that’s set on sterling silver, 22k gold, or platinum.

For the gold hoops, I’m searching for thin 22k yellow gold hoops that are neither huggies nor giant hoops. My skin can’t tolerate gold vermeil.

I’m hoping you chic bitches will have recommendations for me!

I'm a career switcher who used to work in tech and art/tattooing... That means I have quite a lot of tattoos on my arms and legs. I've been trying to shift my wardrobe to be more feminine and professional and I'd love to wear more skirts and dresses.

Where I'm struggling is I've literally never seen attorneys with tattooed legs wearing skirts. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong spot, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to wear these things without having issues with the tattoos.

So. TL;DR: General fashion advice incorporating skirts/dresses and more feminine attire for a lawyer with many tattoos on the legs and arms?

I’m trying to decide what to wear to a firm organized event. My firm is hosting a Fourth of July event (we are in DC and can see the fireworks at the monument). That being said we’re also in a heat wave and it is 100° out and the event will be mostly outdoors.

Unless I really wanna go inside and sit at my work space. So for a usual workday the dress is business casual. With the attorneys mainly dressing more business, and all of the paralegals dressing more in jeans, T-shirts, crocs, etc.

It’s so hot. I’m trying to decide what I should get to wear whether it would maybe be acceptable for me to go in a tennis dress. Or if I could maybe even do linen shorts and then I could wear a shirt that I actually made it another firm event that I had meant to wear for Fourth of July, which was a red white and blue tie-dye shirt.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if you’re in the middle of a heat wave it’s gonna be 100° out. What would you potentially wear to not sweat as bad?

ETA: thank you to those who commented. I’m feeling much more comfortable going now in maybe linens or something that won’t be too hot versus what I wouldn’t normally wear my during my day-to-day. :)

Part of being a bitch with taste is unfortunately feeling good physically. I have a medical condition that has made me fluctuate in weight a few times throughout my life and I’m way higher in weight than I used to be working in big law - don’t feel good going to work or even wearing my clothes. Really want to feel like myself again.

Would love any thoughts or recs - thank you!

Guys, it's 105°. I'm sweating through everything I own, and my skin is just not having it with my polyester work shirts anymore. Looking to transition into nice, natural fiber, breathable shirts.

What’s your personal approach to religious symbols and your professional appearance?

(Obviously I know I can choose to wear/not wear whatever religious attire/symbols I want. I’m just curious how other people think about it for themselves.)

Hello friends :)

I am sitting for the July bar in North Carolina, but as a (former) midwestern girl, I am having SUCH a hard time trying to figure out how to get my hair to look AND STAY nice! I have curly hair, but this humidity makes it so frizzy, and I feel like it doesn't look as polished as I would like it to. If i straighten it or use heat, it just does not hold. Like it will re-curl in about an hour. What do you all do to make your hair look and stay nice and professional??

The heat index in Chicago is like 105°F, and I am ✨unwell✨. I unfortunately was not built for this weather (y’all in the south are so much stronger than me, I deeply commend you).

I’m in court most days, and I commute via public transit, so I keep blazers and dress shoes in my office. But, for y’all who are in court a lot, what are you wearing on those days where it feels like I should probably be at the beach instead of at work?

For those of you who are plaintiff's attorneys and have trial experience, what do you wear for jury trials?

We've all heard the opinions that 1) jurors will almost always judge the women lawyers' appearance and 2) dressing/presenting a certain way can actually help/hurt your client in jury trials.

For those of you who have had to navigate this ridiculous quagmire (not only in our profession, I'm sure), what do you wear?

As plaintiff's attorneys, there appears to be a risk of looking "too fashionable," because the jurors might have that bias, "Oh, there just in it for the money, look at what they're wearing."

Now, I am far from big law or from a fancy firm. Even if I was, wearing well known and conspicuous name brands just isn't my style. However, I do respect those who choose to dress that way–you do you. 😄

I do like to wear mid-range nice suits (J. Crew, Ann Taylor, splurged on a Reiss), nice heels, and just look put together. I also found some work clothes on Poshmark and ThredUp that are in fantastic condition.

I have a couple of colleagues that probably haven't bought a new suit since they started working at the firm. One of my colleague's go to shirt has a stain (the suit jacket hides it). Their suits' material could definitely be more "crisp." Obviously, this is not a reflection of their knowledge and experience. Also, these are male colleagues, so you know. They may face less scrutiny, I don't know.

I just don't want to co-chair a jury trial and have the jurors judge me (I'm sure they will somehow anyway). It would be helpful to hear other bitches' experience. In my opinion, regardless of gender–if someone wears their suit well (size notwithstanding) and just looks like they made some kind of effort, that is always a plus to me. I would rather look that way than show up like I just rolled out of bed. Sadly, I have sat across the aisle from a couple of attorneys who literally looked like they just rolled out of bed because their hair was just really unkempt.

Thank you and hope you all can enjoy the shorter week!