r/LawBitchesWithTaste

Husband and I (36f) are both lawyers (so he gets it), although I have the significantly more demanding job. I’ve been practicing for over a decade, and with very few exceptions, I have never taken work stress out on him.

This year has been the worst of my life stress-wise. I’m having physical and mental health issues, and my career is all consuming in a bad way. I’m actively working on my health (therapy, meds, physical therapy, seeing specialists, etc.). I don’t take those things out on my husband. But I snap and get into arguments when I’m extra overwhelmed at work.

I don’t know why I’m doing this or how to stop. I am generally not an angry or irritable person….like, at all. I don’t pick fights or enjoy arguments. I don’t know why I’m reacting the way I am to everything right now. I know I’m taking it out on my husband because he’s a safe space. But it’s not fair to him.

Am I burnt out? Is this perimenopause? Is it depression presenting as irritability?

The career issues are temporary (a fix is coming - restructuring my role + several new hires). If it doesn’t improve after that fix I will make changes. But how do I survive the next 9 months to a year?

Hi LBWT! I’m a midlevel associate at a midsize firm looking to pivot to in-house practice. Are you all including your undergrad and law school GPAs on your resume? While I have great GPAs, is it infantilizing to include them after 5 years of practice?

I bought a work tote from Amazon and initially I loved it, but it's pretty uncomfy to wear. The strap is too thin for its size, so it really digs in / doesn't distribute weight well. It's also really big, yet doesn't fully close when my water bottle is in there.

I have a 40oz Owala that I would like to fit, and my 15" laptop. Extra space for my padfolio and toiletries!

Any recs? Budget is ideally no more than $150.

Thought a master list would be nice for women like me!
Measurements:
Armpit to wrist - 17 in
Inseam - 27 in
Fit best with no tailoring:
- Banana Republic petite sculpted stretch full suits
- Banana republic petite pants - almost all
- J Crew petite suits
- the Limited petite suits
- Levi’s 30 in length 726
- J crew petite linen pants
- Kasper (Macy’s) petite suits
- Aritzia short linen pants
- Abercrombie short Sunday sweatpants
- J crew petite boy chino
- Halara short Linen pants
- Old navy petite pixie pants
- Gap petite baby boot pants

Too Long on either pant length or arm length:
- Aritzia Short Agency pant
- Aritzia Standout blazer
- Ann Taylor petite blazers
- Levi 30 in length 318
- Abercrombie short jeans
- Abercrombie short Sloan pants
- Express signature flare pants - short
- Bar III (Macy’s) blazer
- Banana Republic petite sculpted stretch bootcut trousers specifically in olive green (navy and black fit)

EDIT TO ADD MORE I FORGOT

I'm an incoming 1L and I had originally picked out the Standout blazer and the Agency pants from Aritzia for my first suit, but I saw something saying they were too trendy and now I'm really overthinking. Is it better to go somewhere like Banana Republic or Nordstrom or anywhere else for clothes with more conservative fits? I haven't bought anything yet but went to Aritzia and tried some stuff on on.

Sorry if these are answered elsewhere! I swear I looked a lot. I just want to hear from people who've been doing this for longer than I have and I'm scared I'm going to look stupid and out-of-place. Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer this anxious 1L <3

Edit: thank you all so much for the advice! I think I might go to Banana Republic and try stuff on and maybe use my extra cash for some more wardrobe items like a new coat. Thanks again! You guys are the best!

I'm approaching my second trimester and already too puffy for my normal work clothes. Instead of just sizing up, I think I need actual maternity clothes--I'm 5'1" and pretty small framed and so far nothing has changed except my belly (which is going to look massive on my frame by the time baby is due at the end of February).

I mostly wear trousers and blazer separates, but I'm open to everything. My office is pretty formal and we're in five days a week (but I will probably be able to get away with casual to business casual while pregnant). I don't want to spend too much money, so I'm fine with fast fashion. Also, if people can recall how many maternity items they bought and rotated through during their pregnancies/ post-partum eras, that would be super helpful.

Thank you!

Hi LBWT, my team is hosting baby shower for my boss during work hours with just my team (<15 people). It’s a bit informal and I don’t have any details other than place and time but I am assuming people are bringing gifts. We do not have a link to a registry to work off of so I am would love some suggestions on a tasteful gift to bring!

I'm out of ideas for my current wardrobe rotation for work, especially days that drag on in this summer heat. This is really the last thing I wanna think about at work. We all know the physical reality of desposition for a long day in a court or just work in general.I'm a heavy sweater. The AC in these buildings is all over the place, and when things get tense, I worry about sweating right tru my silk shells. Its embarassing to take off my blazer during break and have visible pit stains cuz my blouse or shirt doesn't breathe at all.

I cant keep ruining delicate fabrics or relying on flomsy synthetic polyester that traps heat and makes sweat even more. Mind you, I use a fair amount of deodorant. Still would be nice to not leave obvious pit stains.

What are your go-to pieces for days you know will be rough? Has anyone found breathable knits that actually stay dry? What i really want is base layers that look professional but secretly breathable like athleisure wear.

Hey y'all! Starting my 1L year and I realized I needed some professional wear but I literally could not find any slacks that fit and I literally tried on 20 different pairs at the mall. My issue seems to be I have wide hips but a smaller waist, and petite sizes fit best. The best fits I could find were a bootcut Anna Klein pair in light blue, but the pockets showed through so badly. I also just love the bootcut look, and I feel like it looks best on me compared to wide leg and capri cut with a blazer. Anyone have any recommendations?

Anyone got any amazing body lotions to recommend? I’m at a point where I’m feeling happy with my skin (face) routine, but I’ve noticed recently my legs/arms are dryer than I would like, and I probably should be moisturizing more often.

I am looking for something lightweight, non oily, moisturizing - and ideally with a really nice smell. I love L’occitane’s almond products (including their body lotion) - but it feels a bit decadent to be applying it all over my body daily given the price. Worth the splurge or does anyone have a favourite that FEELS luxurious at a more reasonable price point? The random drugstore brand mega jug I found under my sink just isn’t cutting it!!

HI LBWT!!!!

I start my first attorney job in 2 weeks (well, law clerk while I wait for my bar results but I’m manifesting) and I am stressing about my office. (ridiculous i know)

So many questions that I hope law bitches w mode taste (and experience) than me can help answer

1. Is it weird to decorate your office as a first year? What’s realistically considered “too much”? The other people at my new office don’t REALLY decorate but i am such a “need this space to be cozy and happy” type person lol

2. When do you decorate? Like I’m not showing up with a Uhaul on Day 1 obv but like… week 2? month 2? and do I come to the office on the weekend to do it? LMAO

3. Do I need to ask permission to rearrange the stuff that’s already in there? The way they have the desk positioned currently is not the most ideal imo lol (and also ask permission to like… nail into the wall? to hang my diplomas?? or to put the monitors they give me on a monitor arm??)

4. how did you decide your vibe? bonus points if you tell me things that are a must have for you in your office!!!

this post screams maybe i should increase my lexapro but whateverrr 😭

i am not trying to like do an HGTV type renovation i just wanna be happy in the office lol

I’m a relatively athletic shaped woman, on the thinner side, with short muscular legs and a very long torso. I feel like I struggle to find suits that complement this body shape - or maybe I’m not looking for the right ones. On casual days I definitely prefer a high waisted and wide leg pant, which de-emphasizes my short legs, with a belt and tucked-in top. I’m trying to upgrade my wardrobe for more formal meetings.

Any recommendations for a suit jacket length/style or specific jackets that would complement this body type? Would wide leg, high waisted pants still be better for suiting? Would other pants be better? Open to any and all suggestions, and hopefully this will be helpful to other LBWT with this body type!

If anyone has purchased Argent clothing and returned them online, check to see if you have been refunded. My experience is that they do not refund unless you specifically email to ask after they received the return. I’ve had multiple returns not credited back for up to 8 months until I asked. Really easy to miss it!

FWIW I love the suits and have recommended them on this sub. But one customer service agent told me that only their CEO processes/approved refunds which is why they got delayed (missed?)

To all my LBWT, keep an eye on those returns!

I love wearing casual sneakers… sometimes I enjoy heels but it’s not in my personality to wear heels and dress clothes every day of law school. I feel I perform much better in jeans, a button down top tucked in and comfortable shoes. Any recommendations for cute yet more professional looking flats or sneakers to wear this fall for law school? Or, should I opt to wear more heels and get over it (really don’t want to..)? Thank you!

Junior in biglaw now and I wish that I could get back into horseback riding so much. I rode almost every day growing up and had my own horse. Unfortunately, living and working in a city now means it's 1hr+ drive each way to any barn. Even an hour lesson is a 4 hour commitment from leaving my house to getting back. And as you can imagine, I don't exactly have a ton of free time...

Has anyone in this group found a way to ride regularly, even once a week? My dream would be to lease or even own a horse again, but with how much full board and training costs I don't even think it would be worth it given the demands of my job. Any equestrian LBWT have ways they've fit horses into their lives?

I wanted to ask if any of you have worked with a legal career coach, or would recommend one? I am a little over 2 years into practicing law. I am seeking to pivot out of commercial litigation and consumer collections work for a large bank and moving into transactional work. I have an idea of where I am headed, but nothing concrete. I am currently at a mid-size firm, looking to eventually go in house. My prior experience is in securities regulation, franchising law, and general corporate work. I would like to leave my current role, sooner than later due to work life balance issues and lack of mentorship.

Yall send me your fav sling backs pls! Within range (would love to spend under $100). I also have wide feet FWIW. TYIA!

starting my first job in mid-law in two weeks and i am looking to do a bit of a closet overhaul. i would love to hear from yall about any affordable, stylish, well-made brands yall enjoy and that have lasted multiple years. if it’s a lil more $$ but made well, totally okay with that too :) i know abercrombie has a nice office line, but willing to hear other recs!!

for context, ill be in office most days of the week and will be in court a decent amount!!