u/myfinalbraincell13

I posted this in AntiMLM. Now I’m aware this job is more devilcorp. Prime communications. Door to door selling fiber, phone, cable with AT&T.

My boyfriend of 2 years has started working for a company that is “third party contracted” with AT&T. The whole structure is to build a team underneath you and take a percentage of that and one day you can “own your own business”. They work 70 hours a week, only commission. They do conferences that are meant to hype people up. His boss wanted to meet me and have dinner within two weeks of working there. It’s WEIRD. His boss has sent him money or “raised” his training pay both weeks he’s been there because there’s NO MONEY in this field as an entry level employee. They rob you of your time and pay you dimes.
But my boyfriend is caught up in the idea that they sell of freedom and independence.
But I cannot convince myself that this is a good path or career. Over the past two years I’ve emphasized that I want a family with a foundation. I want him to finish school and establish a career. And now he’s talking about doing this long term when he initially said it would just to be getting experience on his resume.
I’m at the point to where I can’t see myself being happy being in a relationship with someone who builds their career in an MLM.
Am I wrong? Am I going to end a relationship over an unfair standard I’m setting?
Am I being too judgmental over what a pyramid scheme is?
Is there saving this?

Edit : HA. I had asked him to speak to someone about what is going on to have someone to bounce back and forth with that wasn’t me. Guess who that way? The boss.
Who swears this is not an MLM. Sure maybe it’s not directly. But it works almost exactly like one.
Someone look up prime communications and tell me I’m not going insane.
He says he will look into devilcorp more and watch the documentary. However, he has a tendency to say a lot and do a lot less unless I’m the one pushing him.
I hate this stupid crap.

My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. We have lived together since 6 months of dating (yes, very early, I recognize the childish nature of this).
Lately I have been battling the idea that we may have to break up. We are completely different when it comes to communication. We have different levels of motivation and doing what it takes to have certain things in life. Most arguments we have, I feel as if I’m the one left to sit in the emotions with no resolution. His apologies feel surface level and as if he’s apologizing to a parent, reading from a script, or as if he just knows what the right thing to say should be. We “want” the same things in life, if he’s being honest about what that is. I am successful in my career, and have built my life up from coming from poverty.
I have a feeling he says his goals are the same as me because he doesn’t want to lose me. We are at a cross roads right now because he has recently started working for a Devilcorp, and I can’t support it. And his answer for choosing that job long term, or our relationship, is “I don’t know, I need to think”. This doesn’t feel good enough for me. We are in a committed relationship that talks about engagement, marriage, home ownership. We are very integrated in each others families lives, and our friends lives. So questioning a job over us, is a gut punch.
It has made me seriously question the roots out of relationship and if we are supposed to be together.
How do I navigate the emotions of a break up? The pictures we have around our home. The memories we’ve made. The plans that will no longer happen. The good in him that I see, that I now have to give up on.
He’s my third serious relationship. This won’t be my first heartbreak, but it will probably be the worst. And I don’t know if I’m emotionally prepared for that.
I’m scared I’ll continue to be as naive as I have been the last year, and not be able to take the step that probably needs to be done. I can’t go through those emotions again. I can’t handle the thought of making the wrong choice. The idea that we are truly done. And having to live with that.
I continue to try to convince myself that he needs to grow, and he’ll learn how to be the partner I need him to be. But deep down I know the odds. I’m realistic. I just can’t accept it.

My (26F) boyfriend (26M) of 2 years has starting working for a company that is “third party contracted” with AT&T. The whole structure is to build a team underneath you and take a percentage of that and one day you can “own your own business”. They work 70 hours a week, only commission. They do conferences that are meant to hype people up. His boss wanted to meet me and have dinner within two weeks of working there. It’s WEIRD. His boss has sent him money or “raised” his training pay both weeks he’s been there because there’s NO MONEY in this field as an entry level employee. They rob you of your time and pay you dimes.
It is a pyramid scheme structure.
But my boyfriend is caught up in the idea that sell of freedom and independence.
But I cannot convince myself that this is a good path or career. Over the past two years I’ve emphasized that I want a family with a foundation. I want him to finish school and establish a career. And now he’s talking about doing this long term when he initially said it would just to be getting experience on his resume.
I’m at the point to where I can’t see myself being happy being in a relationship with someone who builds their career in an MLM.
Am I making a mistake? Am I going to end a relationship over an unfair standard I’m setting?
Am I being too judgmental over what a pyramid scheme is?

My boyfriend of 2 years has started working for a company that is “third party contracted” with AT&T. The whole structure is to build a team underneath you and take a percentage of that and one day you can “own your own business”. They work 70 hours a week, only commission. They do conferences that are meant to hype people up. His boss wanted to meet me and have dinner within two weeks of working there. It’s WEIRD. His boss has sent him money or “raised” his training pay both weeks he’s been there because there’s NO MONEY in this field as an entry level employee. They rob you of your time and pay you dimes.
But my boyfriend is caught up in the idea that they sell of freedom and independence.
But I cannot convince myself that this is a good path or career. Over the past two years I’ve emphasized that I want a family with a foundation. I want him to finish school and establish a career. And now he’s talking about doing this long term when he initially said it would just to be getting experience on his resume.
I’m at the point to where I can’t see myself being happy being in a relationship with someone who builds their career in an MLM.
Am I wrong? Am I going to end a relationship over an unfair standard I’m setting?
Am I being too judgmental over what a pyramid scheme is?