u/naejjun

am i being overly sensitive or overthinking it? ok so there was a reddit poll asking if you want to live in a dorm when you get to college and i commented:

"yeah, and ideally 4 roommates. sometimes 5+ is a bit too much but i think 4 is a good number for me."

here's a back and forth of a random person who replied to me:

them: idk of any schools that wud put 5+ ppl together. Most have triples or doubles. Max is 4.

me: huh, i think ive heard of a few places, though they might be mostly places outside of campus. a few colleges def offer the 4 suite though. (*this was a typo. i meant to say 5 suite).

them: The 4-suite does exist, but you don't necessarily get to choose your dorm. You can have a preference, but they just kinda place you where there's space.

me: *5 suite sorry. typo. 5-8ppl exist in colleges, such as bard, kalamazoo (idk how to type it), and others. as for choosing, since the poll is asking what kind of choice we’d make i’m assuming i have full agency over the type of dorm

them: "Yea, so like 2 random places Lmao. Like I said most have doubles or triples and occasionally quads. I was more giving you general advice/setting your expectations on college dorm life and admin assignment."

and theyve just been coming off as... passive aggressive? annoying? idk but it just felt... belittling, even. i honestly had the thought, "what a prick". idk if they actually said anything mean but i had the urge to say "f off" (but didnt ofc.) i just said,

"and others. i can name more. (insert all the unis i listed). and that wasnt really advice. you just told me facts that didnt apply to me. i know my expectations, what colleges i want to go to, and what types of dorms they have."

and left it. but god, "like two random places lmao./ i was giving you advice" no you werent? what advice? just plainly wrong, unwarranted and unsolicitated facts that dont apply to me and assume they know all about my situation? and wdym two random places? i said "and others". there are multiple. dude really made me spell it out. it seemed pedantic, defensive, and condescending.. at least i think. i dont really know. is this considered passive aggressive? i have trouble finding social cues and sometimes feel like i overthink things.

am i being overly sensitive or overthinking it? ok so there was a reddit poll asking if you want to live in a dorm when you get to college and i commented:

"yeah, and ideally 4 roommates. sometimes 5+ is a bit too much but i think 4 is a good number for me."

here's a back and forth of a random person who replied to me:

them: idk of any schools that wud put 5+ ppl together. Most have triples or doubles. Max is 4.

me: huh, i think ive heard of a few places, though they might be mostly places outside of campus. a few colleges def offer the 4 suite though. (*this was a typo. i meant to say 5 suite).

them: The 4-suite does exist, but you don't necessarily get to choose your dorm. You can have a preference, but they just kinda place you where there's space.

me: *5 suite sorry. typo. 5-8ppl exist in colleges, such as bard, kalamazoo (idk how to type it), and others. as for choosing, since the poll is asking what kind of choice we’d make i’m assuming i have full agency over the type of dorm

them: "Yea, so like 2 random places Lmao. Like I said most have doubles or triples and occasionally quads. I was more giving you general advice/setting your expectations on college dorm life and admin assignment."

and theyve just been coming off as... passive aggressive? annoying? idk but it just felt... belittling, even. i honestly had the thought, "what a prick". idk if they actually said anything mean but i had the urge to say "f off" (but didnt ofc.) i just said,

"and others. i can name more. (insert all the unis i listed). and that wasnt really advice. you just told me facts that didnt apply to me. i know my expectations, what colleges i want to go to, and what types of dorms they have."

and left it. but god, "like two random places lmao./ i was giving you advice" no you werent? what advice? just plainly wrong, unwarranted and unsolicitated facts that dont apply to me and assume they know all about my situation? and wdym two random places? i said "and others". there are multiple. dude really made me spell it out. it seemed pedantic, defensive, and condescending.. at least i think. i dont really know. is this considered passive aggressive? i have trouble finding social cues and sometimes feel like i overthink things.