u/never-noob

Hi! My 14yo Chihuahua was diagnosed with a 5/6-6/6 heart murmur. Her body wouldn’t tolerate Pimobendan or Enalapril (anorexia, v+), so is only on Furosemide (and Galliprant for her back pain). She’s starting to cough more often now and I’m worried her time is approaching soon. Her vet warned she will likely go into congestive heart failure soon, but because she won’t tolerate meds, there’s not really anything to do but prepare for when the day comes. Im bringing her in to see her vet in a few days since the coughing is almost once daily now, so I’m not expecting good news from him. I’m ready to be there for her in her last days/wks/hopefully months, but as a last resort just wanted to see if anyone else has opinions on how we may be able to treat or extend her life?

Hi!! About 8ish years ago at a spur of the moment concert Brandi held in Nashville, she was selling a blue sweatshirt that had the BC pride flag and at the bottom it said the jokes on them. I regret not getting it years later and can’t find it online anywhere to even have a reference pic! Does anyone have one they’re open to selling/parting with? Especially in a size medium or larger!

Because of my financial situation and my mom’s slowly declining health, I live with her. She’s great and extremely understanding and accommodating of my PMDD, but our relationship is built off of codependency and shared trauma from my dad. My luteal phases make it unbearable for me to be around her. We live in a small house, I can hear everything she’s doing, and she never leaves because she’s depressed. I work two customer-facing jobs with 10hr shifts with my PMDD and other disabilities, so I’m constantly exhausted. But I’m the only one able to give us a little bit of income. We share a car, she won’t let me help make meals/clean anything, and I just feel like an absolute child. I wish I wasn’t in this situation or that I could have a more healthy relationship with her. My friends just don’t get why I can’t live on my own and on top of that, the US is fucking scaring me while I live in a really red state that cares more about bathroom laws and forbidding government from hanging pride flags than it does about the unhoused and folks who can’t afford shit (me).

How were you able to tell that you were asexual vs religious trauma? I’m having a hard time seeing if what I feel is one or the other. I can’t tell if I’m truly asexual or if the systems I grew up just sexually suppressed me. Help!

I’m cleared to trial chemical menopause and see if that works for me, otherwise my gyno is supportive of the next step to be the full surgery of getting my uterus and ovaries removed.

For those who are doing or have done CM and/or the surgery, how do you cope with the effects while working full-time? How do you cope with bone density loss?

These two things are making me too fucking terrified to pull the trigger since I’m only 27 and have client-facing jobs, but I’ve exhausted all other options and need to get this done to fight for a stable quality of life. Any antidotes or advice encouraging me to go through with it (or against it, even, if you regret anything) would be sooo welcome!

EDIT TO ADD: For my potential chemical menopause, my gyno wants to do Lupron with estrogen and progesterone addback

Does anyone know if PMDD requires us to eat more protein at certain points in our cycles? If so, how much should we be eating to adequately nourish ourselves each phase? I’m potentially trying to figure out my vegetarian diet but don’t wanna fuck with my iron levels haha

Content warning: Suicidal thoughts

I’m know I’m preaching to the choir when I say that this is such an unfair life to live because we have this disease. I’m stuck in the pure negativity loop of “this is ruining my quality of life”, “I need someone to kill me to end the pain”, “what’s the point of saying this is temporary when it just keeps coming back”, etc.

How do you come to terms with living with such a debilitating disorder? Hoping to learn people’s philosophies, ways you accept that this is a part of us, media that has helped you specifically (PMDD related or not), etc.

Side note: PLEASE don’t suggest what you do for treatment (like meds, supplements, surgery, etc). I know my options and have exhausted them all except the drastic ones but I’m not in a place to go through with those at this time. I’m in the depths of luteal, so mentioning treatment will trigger me, so please don’t! I’m just looking for advice on how to change my mindset🫶