u/nidena

I was super nervous about the meetup. Hinge invited me to go swimming with them yesterday, and I decided to take him up on the offer. Ended up not swimming because of impending rain, but I did stay for more than an hour. Meta and I didn't actually talk to each other beyond the initial greeting and the goodbye at the end. She was in Mom mode--their kids were the ones swimming--but I didn't perceive any glares or ill thoughts. It was more that we were each having different conversations with Hinge in each other's presence.

All in all, it felt like a good first meeting given the circumstances.

When I lived in Okinawa, we used vests with refreezable inserts. They thawed in a few hours, depending on the situation. Are there any long-lasting options out there that you have used and recommend?

I've been talking to a fella since March. We met through FB dating. My profile wasn't extensive, but it was enough to give an idea about me. It didn't include *everything* a person should know about me because that's what I see as the purpose of dating someone.

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We'd gone on a few dates with a number of rescheduled and rain checks because life happens.

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After our most recent date, I realized that I found him to be quite boring. He's lived in the same house and city for 30 years but was never the one to suggest the restaurant or activity to do. I've lived here six years and was always the one making the suggestion of where to go and what to do.

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Anyhow, when I ended things, I simply said:

Good morning,

I'm canceling for today.

I don't feel we're compatible.

I'm sure you've had a similar inkling.

I wish you well.

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His response was in the affirmative to my inkling statement along with information that I *should* include in my dating profile.

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Do you provide feedback when ending things?

Is there such a thing? Is it common?

I have a friend whose son is doing this, from what his dad tells me, and he's just waiting for orders.

I've been retired for a decade and from the AF, so what information I might have known went by the wayside years ago.