u/nonchalant-dreadhea-

I don't understand why some things that are so basically known as a trait that autistic people experience are deemed "unacceptable" and seem to never be empathized yet in allistic brained people is seen as totally normal and understandable. A great example of this is during today when at dinner my dad was yelling at the top of his lungs for me to get my backpack off the couch (I had been going through it to clear it out and had simply forgotten to put it away) my mom proceeded to say " [name] found broken glass in her backpack" this happened because my mirror had shattered inside of my backpack earlier in the year, this caused my dad to yell louder to tell me to put my backpack away, and not quite sending me into a "meltdown" but rather distress. I have severe noise sensitivity, and have since all my life, I have also been diagnosed with autism at the age of 3 so this is directly correlated. I told my dad to stop yelling and that yelling loudly when I have noise sensitivity doesn't help and will rather just make me more emotional, though I am not regularly known to be "emotional". My mom then proceeds to say that I am overreacting and that me and my brother are loud (my brother is a young kid who does tend to be loud, my mom also has pretty bad hearing loss and says she can't imagine how it feels for me not being able to tune out any noise like she gets to) and that since we are so loud and that she does not react to our noise that I'm "taking it to the third degree" and that I can't say things are too loud to benefit me and that they can talk however loud they want. My parents are NOT abusive, and generally understand and sympathize with my autism, but at times they can also be dramatic like this, and though they aren't usually. This reminds me of how many people seem to see autistic people's needs as another task for them and get annoyed at how an autistic person's brain works. I just wanted to say that you can't just put off an autistic person's explanation of how something is bothering them at the moment, or not fitting their needs is so problematic for some people, yet if an allistic brained person was having the same issue people would follow their requests to not bother them at the moment.