u/oceanblue_99

Problem: I still can't get my gf's statement out of my head about our fight. I'm F26, gf F25.

Context: Last Wednesday we fought over the update because she didn't update for almost 7 hours. I know she was busy because she was delivering a parcel but it was annoying, it just made me feel like I wasn't a part of her day, plus every time we chat she always says "okay, okay" as if she wasn't interested in what I was saying. We've only been dating for 3 months this July. But I think this is not the treatment I want but at the same time I understand. Both of us ay nagtratrabaho, lalo na ako na may 2 jobs ako from my full-time and part-time, but I make time na maka update sa kaniya.

Are my feelings and reaction valid? Am I not understanding her?

This is not the only issue for me. Because she was calling me and her family was there, she hung up because her reason was that she was embarrassed to see her family calling. I said this too and we talked about it but it doesn’t sit with me. But for now, his statement there has a big impact and hurts me.

Help your girl out here! Thank you!

Problem/Goal: Something or maybe I died after my first wlw relationship

Context: Hear me out so my first wlw relationship ended last year. LDR kami and di nagkita, my huge age gap din kami 7 years - Me (F25) and Ex (F18). Nagkakilala lang kami sa Omegle kasi bored din ako nun and nagclick kami. About her age, di ko alam kasi she lied about it na 21 na siya and even her birthday. Nakipaghiwalay siya sa akin kasi di na kaya ng konsensya niya pero tinanggap ko pa rin and even asked her na magkabalikan pero still nagkahiwalay din kami but ibang reason.

So ayun na nga, 5 months na ata kaming wala. And I saw this post sa Tikatok. Yan yung nararamdaman ko after the break up, I tried to talk to other people just to reset my system na I can talk and mingle. Pero deep down parang may namatay sa akin. I feel na I lost my spark and being a lover girl era. I see my future with her already and ready ako mag settle down.

But right now, I have my new partner. Same city, malapit din ang age Me (26) and Her (25). Alam din niya about me healing. Before I entered this relationship my past na kami. I met her in Facebook Dating App way back 2024 and nagkita sa Tiktok, crush ko na siya noon pa hahaha

I know na wala akong plan makipagbalikan sa ex ko pero yung gumugulo lang sa akin ay yung pain na what if maulit uli? And yung ayaw ko na mag effort sa relationship (but I do naman, I gave her letters and chocolates din)

Basta yun nga, something or someone or maybe me died after my first wlw relationship and how to cope up with it? Thank youuuu! 🙂