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Hey everyone, I could really use some outside perspective on this because I'm honestly feeling pretty lost and conflicted right now.

​I am in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend. We’ve known each other for a long time, well before we even started dating, so we are very close. I have always been very clear about my antinatalist views,having biological children is absolutely off the table for me.

​Recently, she’s been consistently sending me Instagram reels of cute babies and toddlers. It happens often enough that it started making me second-guess where her head is at. I finally decided to communicate directly and asked her point-blank: "Do you actually want to have kids?"

​Her exact response was: "No, I just don't want to lose you."

​I don't know what to do with this answer. To me, it doesn't sound like a genuine "no." It sounds like she does want children but is suppressing that desire because she wants to stay in the relationship, or maybe she is secretly hoping I will change my mind down the line.

​I love her, but I absolutely do not want to trap her in a life she doesn't truly want, nor do I want to deal with built-up resentment years from now when she realizes my stance isn't going to change.

​Has anyone here dealt with a partner saying something like this? How should I interpret this, and how can I navigate this conversation without breaking her heart? Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey everyone, I could really use some outside perspective on this because I'm honestly feeling pretty lost and conflicted right now.

​I am in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend. We’ve known each other for a long time, well before we even started dating, so we are very close. I have always been very clear about my antinatalist views,having biological children is absolutely off the table for me.

​Recently, she’s been consistently sending me Instagram reels of cute babies and toddlers. It happens often enough that it started making me second-guess where her head is at. I finally decided to communicate directly and asked her point-blank: "Do you actually want to have kids?"

​Her exact response was: "No, I just don't want to lose you."

​I don't know what to do with this answer. To me, it doesn't sound like a genuine "no." It sounds like she does want children but is suppressing that desire because she wants to stay in the relationship, or maybe she is secretly hoping I will change my mind down the line.

​I love her, but I absolutely do not want to trap her in a life she doesn't truly want, nor do I want to deal with built-up resentment years from now when she realizes my stance isn't going to change.

​Has anyone here dealt with a partner saying something like this? How should I interpret this, and how can I navigate this conversation without breaking her heart? Any advice would be appreciated.

Hey everyone, I could really use some outside perspective on this because I'm honestly feeling pretty lost and conflicted right now.

​I am in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend. We’ve known each other for a long time, well before we even started dating, so we are very close. I have always been very clear about my antinatalist views,having biological children is absolutely off the table for me.

​Recently, she’s been consistently sending me Instagram reels of cute babies and toddlers. It happens often enough that it started making me second-guess where her head is at. I finally decided to communicate directly and asked her point-blank: "Do you actually want to have kids?"

​Her exact response was: "No, I just don't want to lose you."

​I don't know what to do with this answer. To me, it doesn't sound like a genuine "no." It sounds like she does want children but is suppressing that desire because she wants to stay in the relationship, or maybe she is secretly hoping I will change my mind down the line.

​I love her, but I absolutely do not want to trap her in a life she doesn't truly want, nor do I want to deal with built-up resentment years from now when she realizes my stance isn't going to change.

​Has anyone here dealt with a partner saying something like this? How should I interpret this, and how can I navigate this conversation without breaking her heart? Any advice would be appreciated.

my life looks great. I run a successful business, I’ve a Master’s degree, and things are objectively going well. Sure, it comes with a massive amount of stress, but I’m making it work and building a solid future.

​But honestly? I'm just so done with life. The whole routine, the pressure, the system,it’s exhausting, and I’ve completely lost interest in the traditional path. Because of this, I have absolutely zero desire to ever bring children into this world. I'm firmly against having kids.

​And before anyone jumps into the comments to give me the usual religious lectures or tell me to go pray, please don't. I am a deeply spiritual person, and I believe in the Quran to an incredibly high degree. My faith is strong and deeply personal. I’m just completely disillusioned with existence itself and the idea of passing it on.

​Anyone else doing well externally but feeling completely checked out internally? How do you cope?

my life looks great. I run a successful business, I’ve a Master’s degree, and things are objectively going well. Sure, it comes with a massive amount of stress, but I’m making it work and building a solid future.

​But honestly? I'm just so done with life. The whole routine, the pressure, the system ,it’s exhausting, and I’ve completely lost interest in the traditional path. Because of this, I have absolutely zero desire to ever bring children into this world. I'm firmly against having kids.

​And before anyone jumps into the comments to give me the usual religious lectures or tell me to go pray, please don't. I am a deeply spiritual person, and I believe in the Quran to an incredibly high degree. My faith is strong and deeply personal. I’m just completely disillusioned with existence itself and the idea of passing it on.

​Anyone else doing well externally but feeling completely checked out internally? How do you cope?

Hey everyone,

We all agree that sheep prices this year are insane. But here is my question: Why are people still rushing to buy them, knowing the prices make no sense? 🤦‍♂️

By paying whatever the sellers ask, we are creating a huge problem for the future. It’s basic economics: if we buy at these high prices today, sellers and middlemen will just make it even more expensive next year.

We also need a reality check on the religious side. Eid is a Sunnah for those who can afford it—it is not mandatory. Taking out loans or stressing your family's budget just for appearances goes against everything religion teaches us.
God wants ease for us, not hardship. You won't be judged for not buying a sheep you can't afford, but mismanaging your family's money just for show is a different story.

Hey everyone,

​I’m reaching out to see if anyone else feels this way or has managed to navigate this.

​Lately, I’ve been finding it incredibly difficult to get into a serious relationship or genuinely engage with someone because of my stance on anti-natalism. For me, it’s a deeply held core value, not just a casual preference.

​The reality is that the vast majority of people see marriage and having children as the default, unquestioned path in life. Whenever I start talking to someone, I find myself holding back because I know that if things get serious, the "kids conversation" will inevitably come up, and it's a massive dealbreaker for me.

Hey everyone,

​I’m reaching out to see if anyone else feels this way or has managed to navigate this.

​Lately, I’ve been finding it incredibly difficult to get into a serious relationship or genuinely engage with someone because of my stance on anti-natalism. For me, it’s a deeply held core value, not just a casual preference.

​The reality is that the vast majority of people see marriage and having children as the default, unquestioned path in life. Whenever I start talking to someone, I find myself holding back because I know that if things get serious, the "kids conversation" will inevitably come up, and it's a massive dealbreaker for me.

Hi everyone!

​I’m looking to connect with a talented embroidery artist (hand or machine) who specializes in working on denim/jeans.

​I have a project focused on upcycling and reselling high-quality denim pieces, and I want to add unique, artistic value to them through custom embroidery designs.

​What I’m looking for:

​Someone who can work on thick denim fabric.

​Creative designs (floral, geometric, or edgy/modern styles).

​Reliable turnaround times as I plan to scale this into a small business.

​Open to discussing rates per piece or a partnership model.

​If you’re interested, please drop a comment with your portfolio or DM me with some samples of your work. Looking forward to seeing some amazing talent!