u/outersenshi

Hello!

I have been thinking about buying a Vespa for a little bit now. I live in a coastal town on the US west coast. I wanted to start with a 50cc to learn and eventually become licensed and move up to a 150cc. The closest dealership is roughly 3 hours away, but my city does have a service center specifically for Vespa. What are some tips, fun facts or generally undisclosed things I could benefit from knowing about owning a Vespa before I decide to take my search more seriously?

I had to laugh a little typing that out. Yesterday a friend (Jared, 31) and I (30M) were chatting on snapchat. We’ve known each other since we were 11/12 and we chose different paths in life. Until he had his first kid 6 years ago he felt judged about his choices in life. He didn’t make the best decisions growing up and, honestly he still doesn’t, but I’m supportive.

Anyway, Jared likes to send random snaps and talk about whatever it is he took a pic of. Normally I’ll reply with a pic of a wall, window, my view from the closest window, etc. usually low effort nothingness because he just wants a picture reply. Occasionally I’ll send a partial selfie. Yesterday he sent me a pic of something on tv. He was talking about it and I replied with a pic of some plants I have on a stand and there were some lego kits under them. He stopped his messaging about whatever was on tv and typed “you have legos. You have nice things.” To which I replied “lol. Those are legos. I was focusing on the plants though.” He replied “and board games. You have collectible items.” I said “the legos aren’t mine. Mine are upstairs.” To which he replied “you have an upstairs. You have collectibles. You have money. You have nice things. You can buy nice things” and so on. It was a spiral that came out of nowhere. He was trying to make me feel bad for things I worked for…He’s never reacted this way toward anything he’s seen me buy or own and I one time picked him up from work in a brand new jetta when he worked in a warehouse sorting trash for 10 hours a day because it began raining and he didn’t have a jacket or ride home.

He left me on read the rest of the day yesterday. He knows I don’t chase down a fight or take the bait when someone is picking a fight, but this morning he just texted “I wish I could play board games with my kids.” Was I wrong to send him a picture with legos in it? Hahahaha should I stick to pics of walls, counters and windows?

I am returning to Seoul in about two months and will be traveling with a friend who is vegan. I used to live in Seoul 10 years ago and this is my first time being back since leaving. What are some of your top recommendations for vegan restaurants or vegan dining? I know a couple places in Itaewon and Gangnam but I want some recommendations for places you might think are a must try.

With Halloween in about 3 months and nothing but spooky first hand experience stories and true crime stories being suggested to me on youtube I remembered one experience I had from 2020.

When my grandma was alive she would always say “that the ghosts of people we know will come let us know they died.” It’s something her family has always experienced. I had experienced it a few times already in one way or another.

On this particular day in 2020 my mom had come home early and finished working from home. It was my day off and I was downstairs watching movies. She had sent me a text asking me to help her move the bins to the curb. I ran upstairs and heard her in her room on the phone talking to someone. I tuned it and her out completely and just went to look for my shoes. My brother has recently moved back in as well and gotten a puppy he refused to train and was letting his dog use my room as her bathroom and toy room so finding my shoes and hoping they had not been pooped in while I wasn’t home was time consuming (a story for a different post).

About 10 minutes passed and I found my shoes, put them on and omw downstairs saw that my mom’s room door was open which meant she wasn’t in there. From the staircase I looked out to the front curb and didn’t see the trashcans so I figured she was in the living room or kitchen. I walked into the kitchen and saw her. I said “I’m ready. Let’s go move some bins.” I didn’t get any acknowledgment or response. I began walking closer and as I did I looked out the window just past where I was in the kitchen and saw my mom walking by. I looked back over to where I thought I saw my mom in the kitchen and she was gone. I ran out and told her what just happened and she said she had come home early to WFH because her friend Angela died the night before and felt like she needed to come home. Angela’s brother had called my mom to tell her what he said happened. Angela had asked a friend to drive her home from the bar and she thought the friend was sober but it turned out she wasn’t. While trying to speed onto the freeway at a light turning red, the car swerved too much and spun out of control until it hit a pole. Angela died on impact. The friend passed out in the driver’s seat and the car began catching on fire. The friend eventually died from the smoke inhalation.

Angela had posted online a selfie the night she died and my mom showed me to ask if that’s who I saw. I had never met Angela and didn’t know what she looked like. I told my mom the person I saw was facing away from me but the clothes and hair all matched.

Later that night I was getting ready for bed and was walking to my mom’s room to find my dog who liked sleeping under my mom’s desk in her room when my dog comes at me running and barking and I thought that was strange for him to do. Then I heard my mom scream and throw something. I ran to her room and asked what was happening and she said “Angela was in my mirror. Her face…she was right there.” As she was telling me we both smelled a little bit of smoke and I checked all over her room while she was calming herself down but no candles or anything were lit. I then asked if Angela’s brother was sure she died immediately and not while the smoke was filling the car. He never responded, but a report later came out that both people died of smoke inhalation while trying to get out of the car. We didn’t see Angela again after that night, but a couple times between that day and the day of her funeral we would smell smoke in my mom’s bathroom. Not entirely sure why only there, but after the funeral there was no more activity.

I wouldn’t say my mom’s house is haunted, but there have been occasions where my mom has taken videos in the house and she sees orbs just dancing around in weird ways in the videos. Or fading in and out.

I LOVE Korean food and don’t always want to travel up to Paso to Hana and Honey Belly can be pricey. Especially with the cost of gas right now. I’m spending the day in AG and remembered that I heard something about a Korean food truck in town. I looked them up, saw I was a block away from the address they listed online so I went annndd….it’s a house…no food truck in sight, nothing. So, thinking it was a mistake, I called them to see if maybe they’re located somewhere else. Their website also says they cater and do delivery so maybe I can request delivery. The phone rang twice and they sent me to voicemail. They then texted “please text me.” Multiple red flags flying around, but I replied letting them know I couldn’t find their food truck. No reply. So now I am wondering, has anyone ordered from them ever? Are they worth the scavenger hunt? Their website looks legit.

Idk if you have a dash cam or if you’ll even see this, but my dash cam got everything pretty clearly. I’m getting what I got to CHP in the morning. Hope he didn’t mess you up too bad. Stay safe out there.

It might come off a little selfish writing this, but I just don’t think our team should be rescheduling WORK events to fit the schedule of a non employee.

I work with a great team. They’re all pretty cool, we get along well and our team is pretty small within a pretty small department for our larger company. I am newer to this team but not to the department. I came from our main office. One thing I have noticed with this team is that we have a part time coworker who feels like her husband should be included in our functions.

A couple months ago we had a meeting announced to us. It was going to be a “lunch time” meeting to discuss some changes and work things. The coworker, Cece, asked if her husband could join us and what the menu would be. She was reminded it was a work hours thing and she kinda slumped her shoulders and said “ok.” Then came back to the office and let him know he couldn’t come (over the phone).

This week we are having another work function. Originally it was supposed to be lunch to get together as a team, catch up, celebrate and hang out. Well Cece let us know her husband really didn’t wanna miss this one and lunch was just not going to work for Wednesday and asked if Thursday dinner was acceptable. Our boss approved because nobody rejected, but I just keep thinking about how we have WORK functions either during or after working hours and Cece’s husband has to be part of them. Our department is small and a lot of coworkers know each other’s personal lives on some level. We have met a majority of each other’s spouses, partners, kids, some parents, etc but Cece is the only team member whose husband has to have an active role in our functions.

Maybe it sounds selfish, but I feel like not every function needs to include Cece’s husband. Especially when, from my understanding, he’s a pretty busy guy who runs youth groups and charity events and things. If Cece wanted to spend time with her husband regularly she could invite him to eat with her in one of our building’s 4 lunch rooms. His office is across the street and half a block down from ours. An 8 minute walk from our office. Or she could go to his office for lunch.

I should add that I don’t have anything against Cece’s husband. He genuinely seems like a nice guy and we get along. I’m not entirely sure if she is asking on his behalf then telling him to come along or if he is asking to join our events, but it feels a bit pushy sometimes to make room for or reschedule whole events for someone who doesn’t work for/with us, doesn’t plan to and then sits there quietly and answers everything with one word answers.

At my previous job I was a manager who worked with another manager, Paula, who suffered a majority of the side affects of a bad personality including meth abuse, mood swings, lashing out, erratic behavior, getting high at work, stealing from the safe, a generally terrible attitude, etc etc. she was a terrible coworker and always tried to frame me and get me fired or tried to write me up for various made up reasons. Not a single shared shift was ever pleasant with her. After a couple years of dealing with her and going through 6 months of interviews, I finally got a new job!

When I was omw out I told my boss and he was sad. I told him he could “fire the drug addict or watch me leave.” He told me corporate wouldn’t allow it and then told me I was the only one keeping him sane so if I was leaving, he was leaving. Later that day when Paula was starting her shift she came up to me and said “hey. I know we don’t get along, but I promise to leave you alone all week this week and next. No BS, no bullying, I won’t say a word to you unless I have to if you could do me one favor.” I smiled and asked what her favor was and she said “I need someone to cover my shift next Saturday. I can’t work that day and if I can’t find coverage I have to come in.” I just nodded and said “sure. Update the schedule and let boss man know.” At the beginning of the next week I gave boss man my notice. My last day would be the day before I was to cover Paula. Paula didn’t find out until my last day because we agreed on her avoiding me that week. She did have to work a half day after all (too bad), but after putting up with all her sabotaging and sending emails to corporate that got nowhere and the mediation meetings that went nowhere and the trainings we were subjected to because of all the complaints from staff about Paula. I felt like this little bit of harmless petty revenge was justified. I mean, the day before a visit from corporate regarding an “anonymous” complaint about animal welfare she basically boiled the fish in the tanks alive and tried to blame me…until the guy from corporate learned that she had the only key to the temperature control room at that time and kept it hidden.

I’m traveling to Chicago at the end of June and heard that Naka Toys in Chicago has a Lab Tama. Can someone confirm if this might be the case? I really want to plug into one!

Thank you