u/ouvray

I feel extreme dysphoria around the idea of pregnancy or ever becoming pregnant despite having the reproductive system that I do.

Yet it feels nearly impossible to avoid all of the people (usually cis people) always making this immediate, automatic association between trans men and pregnancy. If they want to depict a male character as trans, they always have to do it by either making him pregnant or making some comment about his ability to get pregnant. It's extremely triggering for me and as someone who also is not remotely interested in the type of sex that would even lead to me becoming pregnant, it's just bad all around.

Obviously there are some trans men who want to be pregnant or do not have any dysphoria around pregnancy. I think it's fine for other guys to want that of course and I respect it but I just wish it wasn't the default way cis people thought of us as a group considering it feels like most of us are not interested in ever being pregnant and a lot of us still have dysphoria around the subject. There's currently very little consideration or respect towards those of us who struggle with pregnancy dysphoria.

Not to mention the fact that it's also usually treated as a joke or viewed through a fetishistic lens where the ability to become pregnant = being a submissive bottom by default, which is....just weird and bioessentialist to assume. (It's not bad to be a sub and/or bottom of course but implying that having a uterus means you Have to be a sub bottom by default is deeply bioessentialist and transphobic.)

What sucks is that online it feels like frequently I'm the only trans guy who has this feeling towards pregnancy and feels sick of trans male characters always being depicted as pregnant or wanting to become pregnant or having people joke about them becoming pregnant. I hate that it's become a default like all of the other fetishistic stereotypes about us. I hate that nobody takes me seriously when I talk about how it's transphobic to assume that all of us want to be pregnant or don't have pregnancy dysphoria. I'm just tired.

was on a late night walk when I walked past the second house coming from the corner of S Beeler St. and E mexico ave, near cheyenne/arapaho park. There were some white pickup trucks which looked like maintenance worker trucks parked at the second house on the left side of the street, and a man with a beard came out of the driveway and started trying to talk to me and follow me, while there was no one else around, asking me if I lived in the area.

He kept trying to talk to me and walk towards me until I said "I'm not talking to you right now, man" and walked faster and more deliberately in the opposite direction away from him.

Obviously I don't know what the man's exact intentions were. But approaching and following someone who appears to be a woman very late at night alone and aggressively asking questions while no one else is around reads very badly. I don't know if he assumed I was unhoused or a teenager or what, but it was uncomfortable.

To anybody walking near this intersection down E Mexico ave, especially at night, especially alone - if you're a woman or a child or teen, Avoid this House. walk on the other side of the street.

I couldn't tell you exactly what this man looked like other than the fact that he had a beard and he had hair, both dark in color. I couldn't make out specific details because it was too dark and I didn't want to get near him. I suspect he was a maintenance worker of some sort and not a resident at the house, but I'm not certain.

NOTE: This man was not homeless. He either lived at this house or was working at this house. Please be kind to the homeless population and know that I am not incriminating them or accusing them in this post. That is not who this post is about.