u/ozzigirlfeet

First time parents to a beautiful 3 month old, he’s been a chill baby (touch wood, fingers & toes crossed nothing changes because I’ve put it out into the world), however it’s starting to take a toll on our relationship. I do majority of the work with baby, partner will do the last bedtime feed around 9:30-10 to let me try get a decent stretch until he wakes up overnight for the next feed. The 3 months of unbroken sleep & long days with baby while partner is at work, is starting to really get to me. I also feel like my partner hasn’t really connected with baby yet, so when he’s hysterical he doesn’t know how to calm him & gives up, which makes me so frustrated.

We seem to be constantly bickering. I hear my friends talk about their partner being such a hands on, great dad & I know my dad was a great dad, I just wish my partner was the same & I had that support.

We have been together for almost 9 years, travelled, built our first home together. But there’s been so many times where I’ve thought ‘would it be better & easier if we just split & I do it on my own?’

I’ve spoken to family members & they say it gets better, but it’s so hard in the moment & I’m not sure if this is normal?

Please help me, I don’t want to give up my relationship but I am so tired & lonely.

Suggestions & advice is appreciated.

I am a first time mum to a 3 month old & I need help deciding whether it’s a good idea to try sleep train. For the most part I believe he is a decent sleeper, has good naps through the day however most of the time they are contact naps & then I start his bedtime routine around 5:30-6, which is bath, pjs/sleep sack, bottle, rock to sleep. I will transfer him to his bassinet, then my partner gives him a dream feed before he goes to bed around 9:30-10, then back to bed. He generally wakes once overnight for a feed and then wakes up for the day around 5-6:30am.

I am just struggling with the broken sleep, always feeling like a zombie during the day, emotions are high, depending on caffeine to get me through.

So I want to know if it’s worth to try sleep train my LO now or should I wait until after 4 months, given the sleep regression that’s expected?

My goal is to drop the overnight feed, even if that’s moving his nighttime routine later or whatever needs to be done, so I can get a decent stretch overnight, which will help me be a better Mum to him.

Please be kind, any advice is appreciated.

I am a first time mum to a 3 month old & I need help deciding whether it’s a good idea to try sleep train. For the most part I believe he is a decent sleeper, has good naps through the day however most of the time they are contact naps & then I start his bedtime routine around 5:30-6, which is bath, pjs/sleep sack, bottle, rock to sleep. I will transfer him to his bassinet, then my partner gives him a dream feed before he goes to bed around 9:30-10, then back to bed. He generally wakes once overnight for a feed and then wakes up for the day around 5-6:30am.

I am just struggling with the broken sleep, always feeling like a zombie during the day, emotions are high, depending on caffeine to get me through.

So I want to know if it’s worth to try sleep train my LO now or should I wait until after 4 months, given the sleep regression that’s expected?

My goal is to drop the overnight feed, even if that’s moving his nighttime routine later or whatever needs to be done, so I can get a decent stretch overnight, which will help me be a better Mum to him.

Please be kind, any advice is appreciated.