u/pageantrella

Hi! Looking for some insight on how to handle this situation that came up today.

I bought a brand new outdoor pack and play to keep my 10 month old contained. It’s quite large.

My nanny brought my baby out there today and put her in the pack and play. She decided to fill it up with hose water (maybe 2” deep) and let my baby play in it. Had I known that was the plan, I would have not let her do it. I would have bought a cheap kiddie pool.

Anyway, my baby pooped at some point in the water. She was wearing a regular diaper. My nanny said she “didn’t know.” She was in the water for an hour. She didn’t even tell me she pooped initially… she got her out of the water, put her in PJs (no bath) and then casually said she pooped. I explained that when babies poop in water that’s not treated (with chlorine) and not removed right away (like you would in a bathtub), it can pose a health risk if my baby swallowed the water, got it in her eyes, etc. My nanny was very unbothered, didn’t apologize, and kind of gave me an attitude about it.

She’s been on thin ice for a while now and I don’t really know if this was a fireable offense. I’m upset she tried to make my brand new outdoor equipment into a makeshift pool, didn’t tell me she was doing that, didn’t check her diaper, and when told about why this is a big deal, gave me attitude.

I know she doesn’t know the ins and outs of diapers (swim vs regular). But, now I’m in a position where I have to keep an eye on my baby’s health??

What would you do?

I am genuinely asking because I have no idea if my expectations are too much or if my nanny is not a great fit.

My nanny watches my 10 month old all day. I’ve noticed that she doesn’t really plan any activities with her and admitted she doesn’t research age-appropriate activities to work on milestones. She takes her on 2-3 walks a day, usually an hour each and has her AirPods in. I’m pretty sure she does this just to pass the time. When I am home and she’s with her upstairs, I rarely hear her talking. She has said before how my daughter is obsessed with her phone, which makes me wonder if she’s on her phone a lot when I’m not around. I’ve noticed my daughter becoming feral over my phone too, even though I try to stay off of it when I am around her. I’m pretty sure she just sits in the playroom with her and occasionally engages.

I have told her many times she is welcome to take her to the library or I am happy to sign her up for classes but my nanny isn’t comfortable driving with her.

So, I feel like I need to have a conversation because it makes me really sad to think my nanny isn’t really engaging my daughter and is just doing the bare minimum. I’m wondering if expecting my nanny to research developmental play or to plan activities is too much for this age?

Hi! I just found out I am pregnant with #3. I have a 3.5yr old and a 10 month old (💀). We have a nanny now who I have been thinking about letting go for a while (not living up to the contract, unable to handle both kids). So, I am thinking about our next hire and not sure how to handle it now that the third is on the way.

I am a SAHM so my current nanny is being paid her 2-kid rate, but she only has 1 kid (the baby) 99% of the time. My oldest is also in school in the mornings. So, I don’t know if me paying her for 2-kids was overkill because she only has both for less than an hour a day.

For our next hire, we’re looking for a career nanny, one who will be with us for several years, and looking to offer benefits. Since I will continue to be a SAHM, I don’t know what rate to pay them, kid-wise. When the baby comes, I will spend my time with them (since I will be breastfeeding) and would like my nanny to manage the two oldest. Does that warrant a 2-kid rate, even though 3 live under the roof? They will eventually have all 3 for short periods of time (when the baby is older, I need to run errands, etc), so would I increase their pay then?

I don’t love the idea of paying for 3 kids before my baby is even born. I just don’t know how to go about this.

Hi all! I just found out I am pregnant with our third baby. A third was always in the plan, but I’m 9 months PP, and I wanted to wait a year+ before the next one. My kids are 3yo and 9 months.

I cannot help but feel absolutely crushed at what’s going to happen to my body.

For context - after my first baby, it took me about a year to regain my strength, build back muscle, etc. I was so happy with my progress. I got pregnant again at 20mo PP. My second pregnancy was super difficult… I wasn’t able to be as active, I had lots of pain, I gained 60 pounds, it was just really hard.

Since I gave birth, I lost 40 pounds but have not been able to make as much progress on my fitness goals as I would like. I’m nowhere near where I want to be.

And now I am pregnant again. Knowing that I have to surrender, I am feeling defeated. It feels like I will never have my body back again.

Has anyone had multiples back to back and things were okay? I know it will take me a long time to get back but I just feel so sad.