u/pandaparkaparty

$30 hourly cash, semi flexible on hours (4 hours daily Monday - Thursday) onsite in my Atwater Village apartment. 6 - 12 weeks (tbd), starts as soon as possible. must be ok with a very affectionate cat. I’m a woman and being that this is in my home and some of my stuff comes from woman specific things… I’m in need of a woman.

Interested? Send me a message. Questions? Ask here or via message.

The gist, I’m a software engineer in aerospace Hitting that perimenopause state. I have a lot of health stuff going on and am just very burnt out. I’m doing my absolute best to not quit my job because it’s a great job and I enjoy it. I’m just burnt out on everything and life is just too much for me to manage right now. so I need someone to do that part so that I can focus on being good enough at my job while managing my health and getting that back in order.

Day to day would be managing my life. I suspect the first 2 weeks or so you would stay pretty busy, after the initial weeks, there would probably be a lot of downtime in which if you have school work or a job search or whatever, I’m fine with you doing that stuff as long as my stuff is getting managed.

EDIT: I’ve tried this before and have only ever gotten 1 or 2 response! this is kinda amazing. I’m in meetings till around 1. Will respond/reply/message then!

EDIT EDIT:
I sent out a very long message to all that messaged. Thank you so much. I'll try to respond as quickly as I can as I don't want to keep people waiting. Had a lot of work meetings today, but am mostly free now, so should be much faster to respond.

That said, I sent out over 40 messages. You can still reach out, but I'm prioritizing anyone that has already reached out at this point since it gets too hard to manage for someone looking for help to manage.

trying to figure out my options/how to approach this.

Im disable. I was hired full time remote. my work instigated a mandatory RTO. my doctor signed off that I should remain remote. I was denied, but offered on site accommodation. figured out what I would need to make on site work.

Months later, I am reassigned to a new manager/team. team has 3 people that were approved to stay remote because of their skillset not because of ada (we have the same job).

I prepare for my 600 mile move. Then I’m told the desk I’m getting doesn’t meet my accommodation requests (they don’t want to inconvenience someone else by making them move). I agree to try to make it work.

I try to make it work. My disability flairs terribly. My back gets to the point where I’m pretty much incapacitate. I sleep on my back to keep my hips/shoulders/knees from hurting and this new pain makes it so I can’t sleep on my back. So I start having hip/knee issues too.

I start missing work. Alert management that it’s because of the desk issue. they let me work remotely till they can get me a desk situation that meets my accommodation needs.

”Injury” back in April. Management knew about it. No one said workers comp. I didn’t realize that exacerbating an issue qualifies. Doctor told me last week that it does.

but now this seems like a mess of failed ada compliance and workers compensation. I’m exhausted physically and mentally. I’m in a situation where I can be in pain and work poorly or not be in pain but work even more poorly.

I don’t qualify for any payout from CA SDI because I was in a different state previously.

Am I just screwed and need to pay out of pocket to recover? Is my excessive agreeableness and inability to advocate for myself going to cost me thousands of dollars?

I love my job. I hate this so much.

I’m 40. I was diagnosed hEDS back in college. My issues have been progressively getting worse. I’m very happy that I feel like I fully enjoyed life as much as I could have in my 20’s when my body was holding together and I had a 3 mile walking distance and could survive 13 hour flights.

At 40, I’m down to about a mile of walking and 3 hour flights. I just spent the last 3.5 weeks with debilitating back pain that made doing pretty much anything (including work) impossible. Went on my first course of steroids and started a new PT regime.

Aside from the back pain that hopefully gets less awful, I’m still physically able to do some of my favorite things like ski/ski tour (about 2 hours), climb (can’t hang or dyno), swim (as long as I vary my strokes).

However, I just moved to a different state for my job which makes doing my favorite things a lot harder and infrequent. I’m having some regrets in that yes, I think I have a stable job that could get me through retirement, but is it worth it if I can’t enjoy the things I love doing now that I suspect I will no longer be able to do by retirement?

I have enough saved now that by 62 (assuming I take the lowest amount and that it’s only 70% of today’s amount, I could have a simple retirement where I’m pretty much just doing physical therapy, reading, painting, etc.

If looking back, you were in my shoes, would you move and take a less stable position that lets you enjoy your remaining physicality, or keep saving, working, and hope for the best?

I’m torn because I enjoy my work, it’s secure, and really could get me to retirement, but my life enjoyment (with what I’m able to manage now) is less.

Do I continue thinking about retirement the same way as everyone else or adjust it because of my long list of medical acronyms? What have you done that you think you did right/wrong?