u/parsnipification

i am so grateful for all my friends and family. i am so lucky to be surrounded by so much love. i owe the joy of my life to them.

my mum has a friend, who’s had stage 4 cancer for a while now, and she recently let everybody know that she is at the end of her life and does not have long left. after letting everybody know this, she’s become inactive on all social media, and none of her friends have heard from her.

i volunteer at my local hospice and found out yesterday that she has been admitted to the hospice, and will likely die within the next few days.

my mum keeps talking about her friend, how she’s so worried for her, how she’s really struggling with this, how it’s breaking her heart.

i obviously cannot say anything due to confidentiality, and she clearly doesn’t want anyone other than her close relatives knowing. but i feel so guilty watching this upset my mum so deeply, and not being able to share the information i have.

it’s very likely that i’ll also know when her friend has passed before her, and im really struggling with the idea of her talking about her friend while i know she is no longer with us.

i’m not sure if anyone has any advice on how to navigate this, but i thought id come and ask anyway.

EDIT: just to clarify, i absolutely will not break confidentiality !! i was more asking for advice on how to navigate my emotions during this and how to deal with the guilt and upset and all of that. should have been more clear about that (:

been on hiprex since november, it worked for me! not a single symptom for around 5 months. got a uti last month, and like clockwork, have another one this month. my utis before were every 3 weeks/month so it feels like i’m slipping back into old patterns. i had a real cry this morning because it seems like all roads lead back to this. life is tough