u/peaceyulu

Posting for a friend:

My bestfriend is dating a guy anamata. This is her first relationship ever.

There’s an app called Raya which I’m sure you guys have heard of and he’s a member of it. He uses it often and he matches with girls but bio lo he put the feature “just for friends” ani

So he was telling her he only uses to find friends locally and to network blah blah ani. Kani he’s still swiping right on the person and matching with them to talk to them though? Like why would a guy in a relationship and has plenty of friends even need to do it right?

Kani just for the benefit of doubt I’m asking here - is it normal for a guy to do this? Or is he doing it to find someone else?

Edit: she asked me to post this. I could’ve written this as if she’s posting it but I felt weird so ila post chesa. She has no account.

I’ve had the same bestfriend since the 6th grade and we’re in our early 20s now.

We’ve both always been single but I’ve made peace with the fact that when a guy has to come, he’ll come but with her, she’s actively complaining about not having a bf, how her younger sister is set to be engaged so she feels even more weird, how she’s so lonely etc

So I told her go get on dating apps because clearly nothing else was working for.

For 2 whole weeks, I had to give her pep talk to even get on the apps because she was worried about a gazzilion reasons including how someone from her society might find her, how she could be judged… i had to sit with her and motivate her to live her life and not care.

Then she finally made an account. She’s been constantly contacting me about it ever since. I get a call at 9 AM like “should I tell him my actual college’s name because what if he stalks me and ruins my life?” and that goes on for 30 minutes. Then she sends screenshots of conversation with every guy and is like what do I say? Calls me when I’m in the middle of my internship to ask is it okay I let this pick me up from my hostel? Should I do this / do that? And I’ve to talk to her for hours about it

It got so exhausting for me and perhaps for the first time, I left her on delivered and watched the phone right without answering… it’s been 2 days but idk if I’m being the kamina? Because girls do share a lot of things with each other and ignoring a close friend is bad