u/persiandilligent_304

I posted this on the r/ADHD subreddit and am posting this again here maybe someone here can help me:

Hi, I'm recently diagnosed with combined ADHD. I'm also autistic. I've been a maladaptive daydreamer (MDer) for as long as I can remember.

I found out about the term 'maladaptive daydreaming' before I even suspected ADHD. Since then, there's been this question in my mind that maybe I need addiction advice and help so as to overcome MD. I have always regarded MD as a behavioural addiction. Before I knew the term, it was just a 'bad habit', but then I learnt it was more than that and that I really didn't have as much control over it as much as I claimed I did to my parents.

Anyone here was able to tackle their addiction while also haveing ADHD and being scared of letting go? I'm honestly really scared of letting go of my daydreams because at this point, I don't think I'll ammount to much anyway and my daydreams are what I'm living for. They've followed me through my childhood, through my teenage years, and they're with me now. I can't just let go.

I want control. I really want to be in control of my life, of my time. I don't know how much of the issue is my ADHD or my MD.

I have never been on meds and I'm scared to start now even though I porbably need them because I'm crashing. I'm at uni and I simply can't study. I'm submitting assignments fifteen minutes early and barely studying for exams even though I REALLY want to be doing better.

But something in my brain REALLY wants to daydream, and I can't always fight it. When I get the urge to daydream, I can't focus and I can't sit still. My mind is already half way there (into a daydream) and all I need is my body to follow it. (I rely on repetitive movement to daydream).

There are times when I manage not to daydream, but I'm usually doing a low effort task such as scrolling or playing a game.

I'm tempted to seek advice from addiction services. I'm not educated enough on medication to know what my options are or whether they can help me with this too. I never really asked.

Anyone with MD managed to tackle it? Please I need advice. Sorry if this is not allowed.

Disclaimer: I am by no means asking whether I should get on (ADHD) medication or not. That is my own decision and not for the internet to make. I just want to know if any of you have found help or techniques which helped you.

Thank you.

Like, you know how you can predict a baby will be born in about nine months.

I just had a thought: what if Harry Potter wasn't born yet when Snape shared the Prophecy with Voldemort?

I know in Canon it's kind of heavily suggested that since both Harry and Neville were born on the 31st of July, it was definitely the case that both babies were already born.

But what if they weren't yet and Voldemort did the maths?

I mean, James Potter is probably the kind of guy that goes to the Daily Prophet with the news that his wife is pregnant. We know Snape (unlike what some say) was not obsessed with Lily (he probably respected her decision to not talk to him) and probably avoided anything James related. So what are the chances that other death eaters knew of Lily's pregnancy but not Snape? Probably a bit more likely than them randomly knowing some boy's birthday. We already know Snape definitely didn't think Lily's family weren't possible targets before he told Voldemort. He deeply regrets Lily's death after all.

That (my theory) would explain why Snape specifically asked for Lily to be saved. The way to kill an unborn child is usually to kill the mother too in Voldemort's terms. I really doubt he was plannjng some sort of abortion when he could just avada kedavra everyone. Snape definitely knew that if Voldemort went after Lily, he would kill James too which aligns to Dumbledore later being disgusted by him for only caring about Lily. The fact that he will worry about Lily makes sense however because Voldemort was set out to kill her so as to kill her unborn baby. Also, we can't blame Snape for not valiantly defending James here.

This would also make sense that, kind of, Voldemort might have agreed to spare Lily's life because he wanted to ensure the baby is actually born at the end of the seventh month. So it has more to do with ensuring they thwart the correct threat to Voldemort's power rather than him actually caring about what a random death eater thinks. So Snape could have argued for Lily's life in a 'logically this is better' manner as well. Voldemort might have thought to reward Snape for giving him the Prophecy as well, so that still applies. We know Voldemort interpreted Snape's feelings for Lily as sexual lust (especially since she was a muggle born woman, so basically less than a second-class citizen in death eater terms).

Then of course, Snape obviously didn't trust Voldemort to keep his word so he went to Dumbledore. Which is why it then took a year after Harry's birth for Voldemort to finally find them, and only because of some rat who won't be named who cowardly joined his forces.

So what do you lot think? I doubt I explained this as eloquently as I could but here above is my idea.

I mean, given the way it is suggested in canon makes sense why people might come to the conclusion that Snape is obsessed with Lily, because if he wasn't he would ask for the protection of her child if not her husband, wouldn't he? But what if her child's protection was Lily herself? Then you would want to protect the mother, wouldn't you?

I don't know. I just like that there are these tiny gaps in these characters' lives. There are instances even in real life when you might think you know stuff about a person but then turn out to be wrong or find some context you were missing. In this case, I think it's our jobs to fill in the gaps as each of us pleases. In other words, this is just my theory which I wanted to share.

Tldr: what if Harry wasn't born yet when Snape took the prophecy to Voldemort?

Edit: I genuinly always interpreted it as the Prophecy being said AFTER Harry was born and thought it might be a bit of a stretch if he wasn't born yet, so I'm genuinly surprised at the comments treating this (my proposal) as an obvious fact. Well, you learn something new everyday.