Anyone else here have a BPD friend who chose you as their FP?
I recently figured out that a long distance friend of mine has BPD and that I'm her FP. When I gently and kindly set a boundary with her a few days ago, she immediately told me that she'd known all along I was starting to abandon her and that she questions if I was ever a good friend.
She also expressed jealousy that I have a supportive husband and close IRL friends. While I've put her DMs on mute for now, we unfortunately share space in a small group Discord. No one else in the Discord knows and I'm not too worried about losing the group even if they did (I'd get over it and move on if it came to that), but it's been interesting to watch her "perform" in there ever since I set the boundary. I think she's trying to show me that she doesn't only rely on me for friendship, but it's not very convincing and kind of sad to watch.
Anyway, I guess I'm just looking for validation from folks in a similar situation. I'm interested to hear from anyone else who's had to deal with being the FP of a BPD friend. Are you still talking to them or did you ultimately give up?
In my case, we're both very analytical and interested in emotional intelligence, but I've realized that she has been masking/fawning and only understands those things intellectually, not viscerally. The maturity gap is now apparent and I have the ick.