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Hello. I’m currently in community college and i don’t know what career and major I want to pursue. I’d like some advice from people who work in these fields or know someone who does.

My priorities are:
-Making around $100k or more a year
-Having a predictable daytime schedule (I don’t want night shifts)
-Having good work-life balance and not working super long hours
-Enjoying my job

My dad really wants me to go into healthcare and become someone who’s in charge rather than always taking orders. He’s suggested careers like radiologist, neurologist, and microbiologist. I was thinking about those three careers, but neurologist and radiologist is a long time in school and microbiologist don’t make it to 100k. I’ve also been looking into nuclear medicine technology and medical dosimetry but my dad says I won’t be in charge and I’ll be taking orders. Is that true?

I’m not sure which of these would fit my goals best, or if there are other careers I should consider.

For people working in these fields:
-What are your typical work hours and schedules like?
-Is the pay worth the schooling and time it takes to qualify?
-How is your work-life balance?
-Do you enjoy your job, or does it get boring or stressful?
-How much independence do you have?
-Are there other careers you’d recommend that meet these goals?

I’d also like to know any advice or things you wish you’d known before choosing your career.

If so, did it really work? Does it help with food thoughts, urge to binge, and depression? Any side effects after using this medicine? I just want to know y’all experience if y’all have tried it.

My doc prescribed me this medicine cause of my bulimia tendencies.

If so, did it really work? Does it help with food thoughts, urge to binge, and depression? Any side effects after using this medicine? I just want to know y’all experience if y’all have tried it.

My doc prescribed me this medicine cause of my bulimia tendencies.

I have some memories of what happened, and I’m so confused. One memory that confuses me is that I remember waiting for him in the morning before he took me to his room to let him do whatever he wants to me. Like I think it was a repetitive thing- every morning I’d notice he’s in the restroom and I’ll just wait at the top of the stairs to grab me. Everyone is asleep by then and by the way, my parents and I slept downstairs and my uncle,aunt, and grandma slept upstairs. I remember one time I was waiting for him as usual and I started to talk to god telling him along the lines of “I want him dead. Please kill him. He is touching and hurting me in places my dad told me I shouldn’t be touched”. My dad taught me very early on about how people aren’t supposed to be touching specific body parts of mine. Then I remember going back to my room cause he took too long to get out of the restroom. But the thing is if I hated it so much, why did I go back for more? Why did I wait for him every morning? Did I wanted him to touch me? Like I remember crying and telling my uncle “no/stop” cause of pain. I remember so many stuff clearly, like his disgusting tea stained teeth- literally was brown and it stank. I remember him kissing and biting me on my lips and down there and I started crying and then he told me to shut up and covered my mouth and still proceed whatever he’s doing to me. I remember he was taking me to his room and my sis was there too. My sis wanted to come with me but my uncle shoved her and proceeded to take me to his room.

After he left, I became very hyper sexual. I’d touch myself everywhere, like bruh I was a fucking animal lol, didn’t care if my parents caught me to the point they’d slap me to stop doing it 😭 And I also remember having fantasies with grown men- romantic mostly I’d say. I feel so disgusting for saying this but like later, as I started growing up, I developed fantasies of wanting to get raped or raping someone. I don’t know why I have that but I just feel so ashamed.

I already told my dad what happened. I told him when I was prob around 12-13 years old. He was very mad at my uncle but he couldn’t t do anything cause he was already dead by then. I think he died when I was 5-7 years old.

Before my uncle died, my dad got a call from my uncle. He was very sick and was in a very bad condition. When I was three years old I was at a healthy weight range but then around 5 years old I got very big, like morbidly obese. They were on FaceTime. Then my dad wanted me,sis, and mom to talk to him so we took turns. When it was my turn, i heard him really wanting to see and talk to me but then when he saw me his facial expression changed right away. He was smiling slightly earlier then it just drooped upon seeing me. I’ve always believed that he had that reaction cause of my weight. I felt both happy but also sad. Like I thought that at least he doesn’t find me attractive no more but I also thought that I’m not pretty no more and felt a little insecure which now I’m thinking about it, that’s so crazy that I even thought about that so young.

I’ve always wonder if I really enjoyed my uncle attention. Did I not receive enough love or attention from my parents? But I think that’s impossible because my dad was always around me and loved me. My dad told me before that I used to scratch and hit my sis whenever she gets close to him 😭 So why did my uncles attention mattered more than my parents?

As I gotten older, like when I was 12-13 years old, I started to question if these memories are even real. Cause now I’m starting to question how the hell did I go up and down those stairs without my parents assistance? I remember I use to be so scared of the stairs and I would have nightmares falling down the stairs. My sis was 1-2 years old at that time. How was she up there too? But these memories feel so real and it’s so specific. I had so many nightmares (not sexual assault dreams, it’s more of seeing ghosts and monsters in my dream lol) when I was young that felt so real. I still remember those dreams today. My dad even told me I’ve had nightmares and one time I screamed waking up. So random but I also had repetitive or deja vu dreams of falling down the stairs, dining table, and this big chandelier on top of my dining table.

So the last time I went to visit my doctor for help with my binge eating disorder, I didn't like their advice or what they told me.

I remember them telling me that I'm not overweight at all and that I'm a normal weight. I disagreed with it so much because I looked overweight and I am overweight. At the time I was 4'11 and 135 lbs. It just felt like they had to lie to me to make me feel better.

I also remember this same doctor telling me that my cholesterol was high, so they told me to limit eating eggs and cottage cheese because that's what I ate the most at that time. Then I started listing other foods that I ate, and they kept telling me, "You can eat everything," and "Allow yourself to eat everything." Maybe I misunderstood them that part.

I remember wanting to get therapy through them, but after talking to them, I no longer wanted help from them.

It felt like they were just trying to shove medicine down my throat, and they kept telling me that I have to accept myself or love myself. But I don't want to do that. I can't see myself loving this body. I wanted to lose more weight, but I don't know why I'm so addicted to food. I just want to eat and eat and never stop.

I lost about 90 lbs in one year, and I don't even know how the hell I did that without constant food thoughts.

When senior year started, that's when I got addicted to food. I remember having a thought that I just wanted to eat how I used to when I was bigger, and ever since then I've been binge eating a lot.

The funny thing is, I didn't binge eat when I was morbidly obese. I did eat high calorie foods and lots of meals, but I stopped eating once I felt very full. I didn't eat past that. Now I eat even when I'm sickly full.

Sometimes my body gets so sore the next day from eating so much.

Honestly, this isn’t the real reason why I’m not getting help right now. It’s just my family can’t afford this therapy for me and just don’t have time to drop me off and pick me up from therapy.

I’m from America (Texas) and my ethnicity is Bangladeshi, but tbh I am kinda whitewashed so I don’t really know much about my culture or language 😭

I really want to make friends who r into playing Roblox, specifically horror games. I tried to make friends on this app but nobody replied to me but one did but they actually wasn’t interested. If y’all enjoy playing mimic, backrooms, animal hospital, specter, doors, exit 8, etc.. pls hit me up! Some of these r so hard to beat/complete so I would like someone to play together so we can finish it.

Some other hobbies or stuff I like to do is walking, cooking, and studying- I recently started studying on khan academy and so far I like it!

I walk a LOT. I try to walk more than 3 hours a day cause my step goal is 20k steps. I mostly walk indoors but I also try to walk in the mornings outside.

I’m into glow up/self care stuff too. Hair care, skin care, makeup, fitness, etc.. if y’all know anything about Kibbe, we can talk about it

I’m also trying to go back in fitness and losing weight. I already lost a lot of weight but I want to lose another 50 lbs. I lost almost 85 lbs in a year but I have gained some weight cause of binging 😭 so pls if ur into losing weight and also struggle with food pls hit me up !

I’m going to go to college this year and my major is undecided. I really don’t want to choose a degree that I’ll regret. Some degrees I’m interested in r biotech, biomedical, biology/chemistry, neuroscience, psychology, and engineering. I’m still tryna learn to see what I really like.