u/pinkcalico2006

New Military Gf Advice

Hey guys. My bf (19) and I (20) are navigating the life of a military relationship. We met this yr in March, got together in May, and he left for bootcamp in San Antonio TX on June 23rd. Ive done long distance before, with not a good person, which caused lots of betrayal and setbacks. I met this guy and its completely differnet and refreshing. I feel like im dating such a mature, emotionally intellectual man. Weve both came from heavy toxic relationships and since meeting one another, its been so refreshing to feel that there is good level minded people out there. Ive since met him family and friends and its so bittersweet. I unfortunately couldn't go to the graduation because the airforce limits tickets to just 6. So he graduates Aug 11, but i most likely wont see him till the very end of August. Maybe even longer.

Anyway, ofc Im going through the normal fear that he might grow distant during bootcamp or even tech school. He got public affairs for the airforce and we actually got really lucky with his tech school in forte mead considering we both live in MD. So he'll only be an hour from me for about 7 months. I start school in August as a pre- pa for derm route.

I guess what Im asking is for others whose been through the same thing. Im tired of hearing about all the negative about the infidelity during this and just want some advice. I know I need to keep myself busy, learn to grow by myself, and learn go be alone. Im so excited to be with someone i finally see a future with, and its mutual. I just hate waiting. I waited for nearly a year and a half in my other relationship and Im just so excited to move onto something better. But it seems to be teased in my face haha. This is the first time in my life where im forced to be alone. And I lowkey like it. Ive never not been alone so this 2.5-3 month timeframe of just seeing who I am is something I need. But still. Any and all advice is welcomed. I know the reality of this conversation.

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u/pinkcalico2006 — 4 days ago
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Gift to bf before leaving for the military

I got my bf this pendant neclace that ik most likely he wont wear during bootcamp but in techschool. Basically says I'll be waiting for him and that I love him. He lost this cross pendant a while ago and so I went to pandora and added a cross charm along with the engraved pendant. ​We are a fairly new relationship and im devastated hes leaving so soon, but is this a good goodbye gift? Men what are your thoughts lol. Tried to keep it as masculine as possible. He wears chains already so hoping this is a good addition

u/pinkcalico2006 — 17 days ago