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Me (25M) and my colleague started as a casual thing back in February. After some time, she confessed that she loved me, and about a month ago I confessed too. Now we’re in a committed relationship.

The thing is, she’s always been very social. She talks to a lot of guys in the office and in her friend circle. She tells me to trust her and says she’s loyal, and I genuinely want to. But lately I’ve been overthinking some things.

For example, recently she’s been spending almost the entire workday with her TL because they’re working together closely. We barely meet except during lunch. She says she’s just a workaholic and focused on work.

At the same time, I’ve noticed changes in her behavior and appearance too — like dressing more boldly lately (sleeveless/deep-neck tops etc.). Part of me wonders if I’m just connecting random dots because I’m insecure.

What confuses me more is that if I casually talk to another girl in the office, she gets jealous or offended. Meanwhile, I’ve slowly stopped talking to most people at work and now I basically have no friends there except her, while she barely has time for me.

I can’t tell if this is a genuine gut feeling or if I’m just becoming anxious and possessive. Am I overthinking this? Should I normalize this in my head and work on my insecurity?🥲

I’ve been thinking about this, not just earning money, but actually understanding its value.

For a long time, money just felt like numbers. You spend, you earn, it comes back somehow. But at some point, something shifts ,maybe it’s your first job, a financial mistake, supporting your family, or realizing how hard it is to save consistently.

So I’m curious:

When did money become “real” to you?

Was there a specific age, moment, or experience that changed how you see it?

For me it was the moment when I was about to start some business, I got the fundings but then one of my friend asked me a question, what if you have to leave your job, do you have runway for personal expenses?
And at that moment, I had nothing, I was speechless and then I realised why money is real and how we’re dependent on it.

Would love to hear your stories.