u/potbellyandicecream

Same as above.

Im going through a tough phase. No job, had 2 clients ..they stopped giving work last week onwards bcoz of this stupid economy, ended a 13 yr old friendship, an old excruciatingly painful backpain is back and a lot more.

And amidst this my in laws decide to give us a " surprise" visit. They booked their tickets a month back...my SIL booked it for them. No questions asked...if we are comfortable or not..nothing. Our first anniversary also had a "surprise' visit like this. SIL knew that as well. They just barge in. Now these two visits are barely 3 months apart.

All I needed was some peace of mind!!! My in laws and my SIL are already angry with me (they are sly enough to not show that outside) bcoz ..my husband and I rejected their constant asks to buy a house for the parents near the Sil's house. Sil and husband has been actively involved in this along with the parents...i.e they would find an expensive place which doesn't even hold a resale value .. horrendous ones and aks us to buy it. ...in this economy...when I have no job!! So the last anniversary visit was basically this! I had a hard time...not saying my in laws are bad. But good lord...they did comment on my brothers and my upbringing..monitor where I was going, rag me sometimes..pass tasteless jokes about me being lazy and make me do a lot of work.

MIL would also work but I did majority of the work..4 hours in the kitchen standing, then work, then again back to kitchen. She doesn't ask her son to do anything. FiL gives me a stern look if I go for a walk past 7:30 while their own daughter goes about wherever she wants. And SIL over involves in this matter. She and her husband. All the four were even forcing us to take a loan....Im not able to sleep after I heard abt this "surprise" visit. I can't with the constant judgements, belittling and expectations from me. I fighting back tears since we are already going through a difficult time... How do I deal with this...I am not able to do anything...the stress is getting to me...all i wanted was some months to myself so that I can navigate these difficult times!!!!