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▲ 43 r/polyamory

How to handle the pain of not being primary?

I’ve been with someone for about a year now. First poly relationship for both of us. He has a NP. He and I have gotten very close emotionally and it’s a very strong connection, but I can’t shake the feeling that this will never be a “real” relationship like with his NP. I think it’s on the table for us to continue to grow in what our relationship looks like but I can’t shake the feeling that by them living together, being married, sharing family, etc I’ll always just kind of be on the sidelines of his “real” life. I’m dating and hoping to find my own NP but I know that could take a while and I’m not looking to force it. Tips to not hurt so much? Or is it just kind of a not great deal for me?

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u/potsandpole — 1 day ago
▲ 0 r/coloradotrail

Is this plan realistic?

I’ve consulted with my cousin and chat gpt and just want to make sure this plan seems realistic. Thanks!!

u/potsandpole — 6 days ago
▲ 761 r/AustralianShepherd

She’s so clingy it’s ruining my life

Love my girl. But she’s extremely temperamental and anxious about any degree of separation. Almost 6 months old and by 5 months she was starting to really make progress with crate training and had stopped barking when I had to go places. Now all of a sudden she’s really averse to the crate again and I keep getting upset texts from the neighbors within 15 minutes of leaving and she’ll bark and howl often until I get home. The max she’s ever been left alone has been about 4 hours but generally less.
I give her like a 40 minute walk/run in the morning before she goes into the crate and make sure she’s fed, has used the bathroom, and I give her special treats to chew/lick and toys in the crate with her. I don’t know what her problem is :( and she also wants to be right up against me at night which is cute but it gets so hot in the summertime. I try to move her over and she moves right back.

Helpppp mostly for the barking in the crate please

u/potsandpole — 7 days ago
▲ 1 r/IDmydog

Full Aussie or Aussie mix?

Adopted her and her paperwork said Australian Shepherd but some people say they think she looks more like a mix. Thoughts?

u/potsandpole — 9 days ago