I was scrolling on Instagram reels and saw a post from a group called Spinsters of San Francisco pop up on my feed. It looks like a women's only group - I was curious if anyone has experience being in this group or know anyone who was in it?
EDIT: Just got a few DMs of women warning me about the organization. I'm glad I posted here!
My mom got her results back as 98.9% Korean, which is close to full.
I only ask whether the Chinese is likely noise because her father doesn't look like the typical "Korean" (very tan, very large eyes, thick bushy eyebrows, deep eye sockets) and he was oftentimes mistaken for Southeast Asian or mixed. I know the percentage of Chinese is too small to make a phenotypic difference, but was just curious :)
Hi, everyone! I finished a beginner ukulele course last summer at Blue Bear School of Music and I'm looking for any recommendations for other group classes I can take. While the instructor was fine, his style wasn't ideal for me so I'm looking for other affordable group options in the city. I'm still somewhat a beginner, so I'm fine with beginner classes as long as they progress quickly. Thanks in advance!
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One of my good friends (Julie) is Nepali and we went to a Craft Circle hosted by her friend, where we met this girl named Elana.
Julie is really into Korean culture and loves k-pop, k-dramas, etc so she saw this as a good conversation starter. She also lived in Seoul for two weeks so she loves to meet other Asians and ask where they’re from.
So when we first met Elana and when Julie immediately asks her, “Are you Chinese?”, she was really surprised to hear that Elana is full Korean because of her features. Elana is tanner than Julie, tall (5’9) and broad shouldered, has very high cheekbones and heart shaped face, very large eyes, full natural lips (not filler lips), natural brown hair (when we asked, she said she has never dyed her hair). She almost looked Islander or she could be half Polynesian/Filipina/Cambodian.
We got to talking to Elana later about other stuff, and Julie was excitedly telling her about all the fun she had in Korea, how much she loves the country and how so many ajimas in the subway were calling her “beautiful” and that “she looks Thai”. Elana says, “That’s great to hear and I’m glad Korea has evolved from when my mom lived there until she was 10, where she was made fun of for being dark.”
Julie asked her what her mom looked like and she showed me a photo of her family, and all her family looks very Korean except for her and one of her siblings, which Julie points out. Elana laughed and said, “Yeah I take after my grandpa. He was very tan and many people in America have mistaken him for Indian or Southeast Asian when he moved here.”
Julie is fascinated and asked Elana if she was for sure full Korean. Elana said that her 23andme test says she’s 100% Korean. Julie said to her, “Yeah when I saw you, I thought you were Cambodian or Southern Chinese. It’s funny, even I look more Korean than you!”
Julie meant it in a joking way, but the vibe changed and Elana kinda stared/gave an annoyed look and she changed the subject. When we were all leaving to go, Julie asked Elana if she’d like to hang out some time, and Elana gave her number out but didn’t follow-up with plans the next day.
We heard from the mutual friend that hosted the craft circle that Elana was “offended” by Julie because she told her she looks Cambodian and that Julie’s statements were intrusive. Julie didn’t mean it at all and found Elana to be pretty, just not someone who looks Korean at all based on when she lived in Korea.
I want to ask, is this generally insulting for Koreans? Elana is very Americanized and doesn’t speak Korean, so Julie didn’t see this being an issue and felt that Elana was agreeing with what Julie said. Should she apologize to her? We’re all in our late 20s and live in the US, btw.
I woke up to a dream where I was in a public setting and got a text from my mom informing me that my partner died. I didn't see anything happen to know or know the details of the death, but just that I knew he was gone. I was crying and felt this grief inside. That was it.
The next day, I told my partner about the dream and he said he dreamt the same. He said he knew no details but that I died. He said he was crying in the dream and in a lot of grief, but he didn't want to tell me more details.
Any idea what it could mean? For context, my partner and I have been together for 2.5 years and we're looking forward to the next steps within a year or so. We overall have a very stable, caring dynamic and we've worked through a lot together as we grow as individuals :).