u/preetham_graj

I promise I won't take too much of your time.
Left a good life in Australia and arrived in Canada in 2022 November with high hopes along with my wife and an 18month old. My wife's company which initially promised to support her PR, backed out in the last minute. We sat with PNP in our hands and rejected 2 invites while asking her company to provide the required employment letters, but they refused.

One year later, with the stress of it all, regrets of moving here, parenting, we both got burnt out. We blamed each other for the tough times and nearly got divorced many times over. That's one of the nasty side effects this process has on families. To make matters worse, From the sheer weight of it all, I performed horribly at my job, I was given a warning and eventually let go in Feb 2024.

However, after 3 years, her office agreed to give us the relevant letters and we made it.

We received our ECOPRs on August 18th after being in Canada for 4 years.
I will not be sharing my timeline as its not going to be helpful. I don't know our PVO/SVO.

After so many years, we basically uploaded everything and forgot about it as much as we could as we were worried hoping would only disappoint us again and we did not have it in us to absorb another one frankly.

That's the only thing I can suggest, if you can ( I know some have deadlines/expiries ), just do what you can in terms of uploading everything truthfully and let the rest go. And please try not to compare timelines. You might think there is a pattern to this. May be yes sometimes but may be not as well. There are people waiting for almost a year and people who received in 3 months from the same exact visa offices.

Happy to answer any questions if it helps you in anyway.

I wont go into the details of the issues in my marriage. But i cannot help but ask myself every time what if i am not seeing this objectively? What if i am wrong? What if i am being unfair to her?
Would i be taking away a stable home for my kid? Will i be the one responsible for ruining his future? Simply because I couldn’t get out of my own head.

If i rant about everything i am feeling or going through in my marriage, you will tell me that i should either leave or seek counselling.
But, that would be assuming I am seeing this pattern in my marriage as is and not a biased version.
Which m not able to bring myself to trust.

He is of Indian origin, wears a black turban. Claims he is a yogi from haridwar.
He stopped me on the pavements today and told me something that made me stop and talk to him. He eventually wrote something on a piece of paper in secret, folded it up and gave it to me. Then he asked what I wished for, a number between 5-9 and my partner's name. After I told him the answers, he asked me to open the piece of paper he had given me prior to all this, and the same answers were written before.

I can imagine how he could have guessed 2 of those answers right, but I couldn't wrap my head around how he guessed my wife's name.

Anyone had this experience?

My partner doesnt need theirs as they have a CWP. I am on a visitors visa currently and is expiring in October. Am I even eligible to apply for a spousal BOWP or is there no point to it? This is June AOR, so there is still a long way to go for ECOPR for us.

Thanks in advance

It doesn’t make sense at all.

Also, If ego dissolution, even a partial one, is so blissful, who is the one experiencing the bliss?

I don’t expect any of us to have a perfect answer to these questions, i guess it will remain a mystery forever. But i do want to know your thoughts on them.

I did mine in October 2022 before coming to Canada. Never left Canada after that. Some say valid, some say not . Ircc says valid. Dunno whom to believe