Why do men romanticize femcels?
I’ve noticed there are a few types of guys who say they’re into femcels but none of them seem to genuinely want us.
1)The first type likes the idea of a femcel. They think we’re shy, clingy, loyal, and devoted but they expect dating us to magically erase the trauma, social awkwardness, trust issues and emotional baggage. Then they’re disappointed when the reality doesn’t match the fantasy.
The second type understands the reality but that’s almost worse. They see our isolation and vulnerabilities as something they can benefit from. They assume we’ll be dependent on them, have no other options and make our whole lives revolve around them which they aren’t necessarily wrong but that dynamic has always felt concerning to me.
Either way it feels like we lose in the end. If someone falls for the fantasy they eventually become disappointed by the reality. If they like the reality it’s sometimes for reasons that feel unhealthy or self serving. It just feels like in one way or another we’re always the ones who end up paying the price. We’re the ones who get hurt, who have to change ourselves or who end up disappointed because we hoped this time would be different. I just hope one day that happy ending actually exists for us too.