u/prettylust1

So me and my friend decided to go to some other city for a day without telling our parents.

We told them we were going somewhere close and we left in the morning with our phones, some cash, and zero plans.

At first everything was going great.

We were listening to music, eating junk food, taking pictures, and feeling so good that we thought we were the luckiest people on earth.

But then we started having problems.

We got off the bus in the wrong stop and we had no idea where we were.

My phone had 12% of battery and his had 9%.

We had no maps downloaded on our phones and we tried to pretend that we knew where we were going while inside we were panicking.

It started raining and we found a small restaurant where we charged our phones for a while and we got directions.

The trip home was pure panic because we were checking every single call we received to see if it was our parents.

When we finally got home we walked in like nothing had happened.

My mom looked at me and asked "Where were you?"

I almost fainted.

My friend had told his parents a different story.

We both knew at that point that that was probably the last time we were doing something like that.

And believe it or not, we are considering doing it again.

Throwaway because this is cringeworthy.

My mom and dad were married for almost 20 years and up until this point, their relationship wasn't exactly strong. A few months ago, my mom was in a car accident. She was luckily not hurt, but her car was totaled.

The situation following the accident is what is causing the issue.

My dad was really mad that she got into an accident. It wasn't that he was mad at her for being hurt, he was mad about how much money it would cost to get her car fixed, and she kept telling him that it was a blessing that she was ok. He was so angry he started fighting with her about it. Now, I know that the car accident wasn't my mom's fault, since another car had ran a red light and hit her. But my dad kept blaming her.

A few weeks later my mom told us that she filed for divorce.

Initially I blamed her because I thought that she was just being childish due to the incident, but later she told me that the car accident made her realize how little support she was getting from my dad. She told me that the accident made her realize that if even when something horrible happened and she was ok, it was more important to him to fix the car than to make sure she was ok, and she didn't want to spend the rest of her life with him.

As of recently, they are in the process of getting divorced

I'm really upset because I feel like if the car accident never happened, they would still be married. But my mom told me that the car accident didn't actually cause the divorce, the car accident just showed her that the divorce was the right thing to do.

So am I AITA for feeling that it's partially my fault that they are divorcing because I was unable to prevent the car accident from happening?