u/princ3sskitt3nmowmow

I had to make a call regarding the danger and neglect of a child in my life. I couldn't live with myself or sleep at night without doing so. I was reassured that none of the specific details and events I had reported would get to the abusers. Not long after I was told that the mother of one of the abusers was giving the exact reason for the call. I was shocked. Then I got blocked and worry for my safety because the father has charges in the double digits and threatened to unalive the person who reported them when they had their first investigation. Is there a way for me to find out who gave those specific details and report them? Because now the family is torn a part and my life couls be in jeopardy.

Just want to start off by saying I saw a lot of abuse occur at the hands of my in law. I'm very scared of confrontation and drama and didnt wanna tear the family a part. The father also has charges almost in the double digits and had threatened to kill the first person to report them during their first investigation. Not only did I see things first hand I was told by another family member about worse things. So I couldn't live with myself or sleep at night not at least trying to do something about it. When I made the call the person on the other end was extremly rude and told me none of the abuse I named (physical violence, starvation,being surrounded by drugs etc) was grounds for removal. I was genuinely shocked but was told an investigation would occur anyways. I asked several times if the specific details and things I witnessed would be brought to the abusers attention. And I was absolutely reassured that it won't and that id be protected. 1 week later I was told that one of the investigators told the mother of the abuser extremely specific details of the call that only occurred around me and my partner. I was also trying to reason with them and bring this to their attention before making the call so that pretty much highlighted me as the caller. I was then blocked by the person and may never see this child again. And I also am terrified of the father knowing hes not afraid of the law and is a very violent person. Is it normal for cps workers to give those extremly specific details of the call ? Again I was reassured this wouldn't happen. Is there a way to find out who that case worker was and report them?

Last year I was arrested for domestic violence (even though my ex was breaking into my car and forcing me to drink while underage) I tried reporting the police officer, I spoke with lawyers and everyone said I shouldn't have been arrested that night and that the cop used very poor judgement. I couldn't afford a lawyer to fight the case so I took a diversion deal. I later found out they put the charges on the wrong name. I know to become a detective you have to be a patrol officer for at least 3 years. I know that dv charges can automatically disqualify you from becoming a cop. I'm asking the people of reddit because I dont want this charge to ruin my dreams and im hoping there's a way or there's a state that'll overlook these charges. I've attempted doing backgrounds checks on myself and employers cannot find any charges, not even the police investigator could find my charges till he tried looking me up with a different name (the one the charge got put on) so im not even 100% sure if I have any former dropped charges on my record. I googled it and it said because charges are associated with my social security number so they should still be able to see my charges. But that hasn't been the case for me.

Last year I was arrested for domestic violence (even though my ex was breaking into my car and forcing me to drink while underage) I tried reporting the police officer, I spoke with lawyers and everyone said I shouldn't have been arrested that night and that the cop used very poor judgement. I couldn't afford a lawyer to fight the case so I took a diversion deal. I later found out they put the charges on the wrong name. I know to become a detective you have to be a patrol officer for at least 3 years. I know that dv charges can automatically disqualify you from becoming a cop. I'm asking the people of reddit because I dont want this charge to ruin my dreams and im hoping there's a way or there's a state that'll overlook these charges. I've attempted doing backgrounds checks on myself and employers cannot find any charges, not even the police investigator could find my charges till he tried looking me up with a different name (the one the charge got put on) so im not even 100% sure if I have any former dropped charges on my record. I googled it and it said because charges are associated with my social security number so they should still be able to see my charges. But that hasn't been the case for me.