39F LF Accountability Partners (Pref: Same age bracket)
Hello. I’m 39F who feels like no matter how much I’ve tried; I have always failed. Doesn’t matter what I do, it never ends up feeling like I’ve accomplished anything. I know this is due to me getting overwhelmed easily. Also, I tend to overshare. Here’s some information about me.
Currently, I live with my mother and am NEET. Her health isn’t the greatest, mainly her knees. Which makes me her live-in caregiver. Don’t have any money whatsoever. Also don’t have many people that I feel attached to. Also, I have ADHD and C-PTSD. Doesn’t help that I was raised to believe I was broken and couldn’t/can’t be fixed. Basically, my life is garbage. Has been and am on a journey to improve it.
Which leads me to my goals and what I’m looking for an accountability partner for. I plan to stick with four goals. To hold myself accountable and have an end in sight for them, I’ve listed some mile markers for them. They are:
- Copywriting as a form of income.
- As I know little to nothing about it, study it. Learn as much as I can before doing it. Complete an online course from start to finish. Study 1 hour a day for a month.
- Do what I have learned and create a portfolio of work.
- Get/Have a sustainable monthly income.
- Improve physical health. As I’m overweight and have been told by a physician that I could have a heart attack at any time due to my poor eating habits.
- Learn about physical wellbeing. Again, something I don’t know much about and honestly get overwhelmed with quite easily. Why I get overwhelmed is because there’s so much out there and I’m not sure what is fact or not.
- Create and follow a diet/menu plan. The menu/diet is to be things that I enjoy and make me feel better. Due to the way I was raised and my environment, I tend to feel guilty about having things I enjoy.
- Create and follow an exercise plan. It’s like the diet/menu plan in having activities that I enjoy. Also, I feel weird and judged when I physically do the things I like solo with others present, especially my mother.
- Self-Confidence.
- Learn about it.
- Journal for a minimum of 15 minutes or more.
- Come up with a plan and follow it.
- Polyglot. (Computer languages included) Spanish and Python to start.
- Find a native Spanish speaker as a language partner.
- Study language 15-30 minutes a day via an app or something.
- Practice Spanish with language partner 30 minutes a day (preferably) but at least 2-3 times per week.
- Practice Python for 15-30 minutes a day.
For me to be able to tell if I’ve accomplished the goal or not, here is a break-down for it:
- Copywriting
- Make a livable wage from it. Basically, it is enough to take care of living in a 1-bedroom place in rural America.
- Improve physical health.
- Goal weight 160lbs. Current weight is roughly 200lbs.
- Be able to sustain intense physical activity for minimum 1 hour. I.E. Running, biking, etc.
- Lift and carry 100lbs for minimum 30 minutes.
- Be able to bend over backwards and hold ankles. I enjoy being physically flexible.
- Self-Confidence
- Be able to stand up for myself without feeling bad for it later. As I feel like I’m a doormat for my mother, mainly, and older brother.
- Enjoy the things I like without feeling guilty about it.
- Live by myself for a year minimum.
- Polyglot. Spanish and Python to start.
- For Spanish, be able to fluently speak the language and hold a conversation about any topic.
- For Python, be able to program a working app by myself from start to finish.
What I’m looking for in an accountability is someone to check in for roughly 30 minutes daily. With 15 minutes in the morning, roughly 8am PST, for a daily “To Do List” of the things I’m going to accomplish. Then 15 minutes in the evening, roughly 8pm PST, for what have gotten done off that list. As for how many people I would like as an accountability partner, 2-3. I'm starting this today. Also would prefer it all be via text. No voice or video. We can do it here via DM.
That way I don’t get bombarded with messages. As for learning Python and Spanish, I will be posting in a different reddit about that. Though if you want to solely be my language partner, please let me know. For that, I will only be looking for (again) 2-3 people. Also, I would prefer people within 10-ish years of my age, 29-50.
Since I'm starting today, I will post today's "To Do List" in the comments.
I know this is a bit long and I do apologize for it. At the same time, I want to thank those who have stayed to the end. I REALLY do appreciate those who read to the end. I wish everyone the best for reaching their own goals.