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Edit: I made a typo in the caption, it’s supposed to be told instead of should. I can’t change it. As a kid I always wanted a big family with at least 3 kids. Currently I’m not saying I don’t want kids, but since it’s not the time to have children I’ll leave that part up to the future and focus on other things. Because I’m diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome a psychologist told me it’s better not to have kids. When I asked her to elaborate because her statement didn’t have any fundament, her argument was that I might pass Asperger Syndrome on and I’m unable to emotionally support others, I don’t find myself in this description. It feels a bit out of place. I never had anyone tell me this except some weirdos who shout random shit, is a psychologist allowed to say this?

Do other gifted people experience the same? I find less trouble understanding complex topics but sometimes I don’t seem to understand something that is considered simple by most.
In school I usually always get the hard answers correct and the easier ones incorrect.

Another example is that it took me 2 whole years to actually *understand* (not knowing) the meaning behind the word ‘nuance’.

For example a few years ago in chemistry class I had to learn different structures that atoms could be arranged in and recognise them. (Sorry if I didn’t say this scientifically correct, my education wasn’t in English so I’m not familiar with almost scientific terms and explanations in English). But we didn’t learn why they are arranged like that.

Another example is from biology class, we had to memorise different organs in each system of the body and their function and where they are located, but for example why don’t they teach us why they are in their specific place?

I think this is a great way to challenge kids and teenagers, of course everyone has their own level of thinking but at least bringing it up and discussing about it could be really interesting and fascinating in my opinion.
Most schools in my country don’t do this and I always have wondered why. Most students are so much smarter than teachers would expect, this could be a great way of them using their intelligence.

No one understand me in whatever aspect, no amount of explanation feels enough. The fact explanation is constantly needed is exhausting.

I just want to live my life normally without people thinking I’m some kind of alien as soon as I open my mouth. I’m tired of seeing things a different way than anyone else.

School isn’t going great either. I dislike the vague explanations of what we’re learning. I would like to learn the why behind everything instead of the what, if that makes sense. And not to forget having to listen to a teacher going over a topic 1000 times you already understood.

Sometimes I’m at the point where I don’t want to become older than 30.

My neighbours have a daughter with Down syndrome, she is 19 years old now. We are both pretty much involved in STEM. It are my favourite subjects, she doesn’t study it but she has a few posters of math and physics stuff and gets fascinated by looking at it.

Yesterday she asked me if I think she could have a career as a scientist. I don’t mean to come across as ableist, but because of her disability it’s not possible. I told her I’d have to think about it because I don’t know how things like that work. However my answer was already no, I just didn’t know how to bring it because I don’t want her to stop having fun by exploring it all.

I want to be honest, how can I bring this without hurting her feelings?

That’s funny because society expects much from gifted people. My intelligence is above average, but not enough to be considered a prodigy. I’m way more average than people think and they don’t understand it. Usually I just try to say that I’m an outlier on intelligence if you would compare me to the most average human ever, but I don’t really have a certain profession or field where it expresses (if that makes sense). The only ‘outlier’ part that it gave me that is visible to others is that I have an extremely good memory but that’s about it.

Since I’m almost done with high school (only 1 year left) I’ll have to decide what I want to do after high school because in your final year there isn’t much time and space to do that.

I can’t go to university because that would cost me 2 extra years of high school. Not necessarily a problem but 1. High school made me suffer a lot. 2. I would be the only adult there surrounded by 16/17 year olds.
So I’d rather consider accelerated paths first if there are any.

I don’t have any other talent like being really good at a sport or anything else to make your profession out of it. For the biggest part it will cost a lot of money which my parents won’t be able to provide.

I had a few side jobs with a few co workers who were adults and worked full time. The thing is you will receive minimum wage and unless you’re married, have rich parents, or you were already financially stable it sadly wont be enough in the economy my country has. It also requires a genuine interest to make side jobs succeed as your full time job (from what I’ve observed).

For me it’s that you won’t have many real people around you. Most classmates and “friends” will act hatred out on you rooted in pure jealousy. They will try to make you insecure and stupid because they are themselves, if the stupid part doesn’t work (because you know you’re not) they will point out something else. For example: they will tell you you’re ugly instead.

In my opinion you’re very lucky if you can have a friendgroup where you wish them all the best and that it’s mutual.

No offence to anyone, but I think I could’ve been misdiagnosed. I don’t think I’m autistic, I’m just dissident and have interests that are in minority (if you know what I mean).

The reason because of that is that I don’t think I fit in enough symptoms. The diagnosis report a psychologist gave me was full of incorrect information, baseless statements and no neurological proof.

Besides that I feel way more like the norm than other autistics and the autistic representation in the media (stereotypical or non-stereotypical). I feel really out of place when going to those ‘autism gatherings’ organised in my city. I felt pretty uncomfortable and don’t want to make others uncomfortable.

I also never really felt autistic in my life, I think the things that make me not like the others are pure personality traits (being introverted, dissident, different sense of humor, other interests). I’ve read multiple books about autism (from different autistic and non-autistic writers) and felt zero connection and couldn’t relate AT ALL.

I think it’s just because I’d rather think for myself and do what I like instead of following a crowd. That doesn’t mean you’re autistic in my eyes.

I never had sensory issues, never experienced much overstimulation, and don’t have special interests. I do have interests that seem niche according to people my age (literature, language learning, chess, programming, nature sciences, metal music etc.) but I wouldn’t call it a hyper fixation. I think a big thing is that I was bullied a lot in the past that they’ve used as a symptom. I know that autistic people are more likely to get bullied but if we are realistic it could happen to almost anyone. Not only autistic people.

Usually I just try to do what morally feels right and not to be rude. I wouldn’t say that I try to fit social norms but I wouldn’t call it “just being honest” (a struggle that some autistics have that can come across as ‘rude’ or ‘unacceptable’ by NT’s).

I don’t wanna say I’m not neurodivergent, but wouldn’t call it autistic behaviour either. I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. When I read the handbook psychologists use for diagnosis I don’t relate to it at all to be honest. I think I know myself better then some random psychologist who I’ve spoken to twice in my entire life. Does anyone have advice on what I can do?